FORUMS

Connect with people who understand what you are going through, seek advice and surround yourself with support. We're free, anonymous, and professionally moderated 24/7.

  • 47,612Members
  • 1,358,869Posts
  • 1,400,000Visitors
Talking through trauma and PTSD

Tillogram

Till23Senior Contributor

Tillogram

I am wondering if anyone has any strategies that have helped them to banish the “Not Good Enough” thoughts.

It is apparently a common problem for those with childhood trauma (likely other things as well).

I think I try pretty hard to surmount this feeling. I have completed university degrees, I have worked pretty much continuously from age 14yo. I try to participate in sport and different other activities. I volunteer.

Maybe “doing things” is not the correct strategy (although it does act as a distraction).

I still think I am not good enough.

@tyme @Jynx @Appleblossom @Shaz51 @Dimity

372 replies

21 - 30 of 372
1234...38

In response to: Tillogram

Till23Senior Contributor

Re: Not Good Enough

Hi All

Sorry just got home (at 7.30pm AEST) Got home - house flooded due to leaking roof - did not this problem before.

Thank you for responses which I will read later.

I've got to be at work in less than 12 hours - need to address flooding. Further heavy rain forecast for tonight - need to limit further flooding tonight and tomorrow while at work.

@tyme I didn't expect my post to attract so much chat on the forums

In response to: Re: Not Good Enough

tymeModerator

Re: Not Good Enough

Hey @Till23 ,

I'm here if you want to talk about how you are feeling. Thank you for letting use know you are feeling vulnerable at this time.

We can also help with removing any posts you don't want left up.

Please know we are here to support you.

As for work, I didn't know you still worked. I thought you retired. How was the competition today?

In response to: Re: Not Good Enough

Till23Senior Contributor

Re: Not Good Enough

Thanks for response @tyme

I am just doing a short term job, to try to ease financial situation (as of today, now got to get my roof fixed!)

In response to: Re: Not Good Enough

DimitySenior Contributor

Re: Not Good Enough

Apart from mopping up @Till23 I hope you can get a tarp on the roof asap - maybe SES can assist

In response to: Re: Not Good Enough

tymeModerator

Re: Not Good Enough

Oh dear @Till23 , hope your roof gets sorted! Certainly not cheap.

Out of curiosity (no pressure to answer), do you think hormonal changes have something to do with how you are feeling?

I know for me, hormones playa big part with my mental health fluctuating.

You mean a lot to us, and I can see the community really want to rally around you.

In response to: Re: Not Good Enough

Till23Senior Contributor

Re: Not Good Enough

Thanks @Dimity I think it seems worse than it is because I've been away for 2 days, I've got buckets in places now.

Sorry you are not feeling well either

In response to: Re: Not Good Enough

AppleblossomSenior Contributor

Re: Not Good Enough

@Till23 roof leaking is a big headache.

Take care of you and the house.

Wish I could come and help

In response to: Re: Not Good Enough

Till23Senior Contributor

Re: Not Good Enough

Hi @tyme I have none of those hormones due to my age and I have had cancer so I am on tablets that completely suppress them. The cycles go for many months it's variable. It is the nature of cPTSD that it fluctuates, because you never know if or when something is going to trigger one or more of your negative core beliefs.

In response to: Re: Not Good Enough

DimitySenior Contributor

Re: Not Good Enough

@Till23 I didn't realise c-ptsd can be cyclical. But I guess it does come in waves. I guess it might exacerbate my bipolar depression... or explain some of it better.

In response to: Re: Not Good Enough

Till23Senior Contributor

Re: Not Good Enough

I know you are off shift shortly @tyme

Thanks for your responses. At least I have distractions tonight 😂in mopping up from my leaky roof

I'm really tired from big weekend of activity. Hopefully I can get to sleep ok.

21 - 30 of 372
1234...38

SANE Forums is published by SANE with funding from the Australian Government Department of Health.

SANE Forums does not provide crisis support.
If you need immediate assistance, please see available crisis services.

Learn more about SANE and SANE services at sane.org

Back to top
SANE logo
Australian Commission on Safety and Quality in Health Care NSQDMH Accreditation logo

Help us push aside the stigma and discrimination surrounding complex mental health and change the way people talk about, and care for, mental illness.

Donate Now
Aboriginal flag
Torres Strait Islander flag
LGBT flag
Transgender flag

SANE acknowledges the Traditional Owners of Country throughout Australia and recognises the continuing connection to lands, waters and communities. We pay our respect to Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures; and to Elders past and present.

SANE values diversity. We are committed to providing a safe, culturally appropriate, and inclusive service for all people, regardless of their ethnicity, faith, disability, sexuality, or gender identity.

Back to top
SANE logo
Australian Commission on Safety and Quality in Health Care NSQDMH Accreditation logo

Help us push aside the stigma and discrimination surrounding complex mental health and change the way people talk about, and care for, mental illness.

Donate Now
Aboriginal flag
Torres Strait Islander flag
LGBT flag
Transgender flag

SANE acknowledges the Traditional Owners of Country throughout Australia and recognises the continuing connection to lands, waters and communities. We pay our respect to Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures; and to Elders past and present.

SANE values diversity. We are committed to providing a safe, culturally appropriate, and inclusive service for all people, regardless of their ethnicity, faith, disability, sexuality, or gender identity.

SANE is a public company limited by guarantee and registered tax-exempt charity with DGR (Deductible Gift Recipient) status.

Charity ABN 92 006 533 606. Donations of $2 or more are tax deductible. SANE, PO Box 1226, Carlton VIC 3053.