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Zoe7Senior Contributor
Just found out a friend's son was tragically taken from us yesterday. I won't put details here but it seems like it was a hit and run. I lost another friend a few years ago in similar circumstances.
Absolutely heartbroken 💔
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
I can't believe it is nearly 5 years @MissGremlin Just feels like yesterday...
I think I need to just go to bed. Don't think I will get much sleep but at least I will have fur babies cuddles.
Thank you @MissGremlin @Appleblossom @NightFury @ArraDreaming Just too hard right now.
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MissGremlinSenior Contributor
@Zoe7 sending you gentle hugs. Even if you can't sleep just getting some rest is important. Give those fur babies lots of cuddles ❤️
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NightFurySenior Contributor
@Zoe7 let yourself grieve and cuddle your fur babies.
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Owlunar2Senior Contributor
Hi @Zoe7
That's so hard to take - it's gut wrenching - I know
There are no words that can make it any easier except that I understand and I care
Hugs from Mumma Bear
Owlunar
💙🦉
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rav3nSenior Contributor
i'm so sorry to hear about your friend's son @Zoe7 it's never easy to process loss, and it's totally okay if you need to step back and take care of yourself.
i hope you sleep okay, sitting with you 💙
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
Thank you everyone for being here @rav3n @Owlunar2 @NightFury @MissGremlin @Appleblossom
Had a very long night - lots of tears and fur baby cuddles. They certainly know when things are not right. Still cannot process it fully and feeling quite numb today - but not unexpected. More details about what possibly happened which just makes it all more tragic. So hard 😢
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
Morning @Zoe7
Your friend will have a difficult journey. It is hard for those left behind.
Glad you had fur family cuddles.
My 2 cats just jumped on the bed.
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
Yes she will @Appleblossom 💔 I wish I could do more for her but that is the thing with grief - not much we can do but get through it the best way possible.
Tobes spent the whole night on the bed which is unusual for him. He usually gets off during the night and sleeps in his beanbag but was right next to me the whole night. Clover slept right on top of me for most of the night also. Grateful for my fur babies.
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Owlunar2Senior Contributor
I'm so glad you have your fur babies @Zoe7 - you don't need words with the - they just know.
Your friend has a long journey - I know something but not everything
Sometimes just being there is enough - Sometimes just being available is everything
It takes times - it's nearly 40 years for me and I'm texting through my tears - the only path is through grief
Take care of yourself first - then do whatever you can for your friend
It's a hard road - I know
Lots of love
Mumma Bear
Owlunar
Only a thought - your friend could contact The Compassionate Friends - they are on-line now
Hugs💙🦉
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
I don't think she is capable of contacting anyone right now @Owlunar2 but will keep that thought for later. She has family around her and her sister flying in from interstate so she is being looked after. ...and as you said, I am here if she needs anything.
I have been trying to keep busy this morning but have a very heavy heart, and more tears. Tobes is by my side everywhere so that is some comfort. Clover is never far away either so I have them both.
Some things don't get better with time hey - we just find ways of dealing with it.
Hugs to you too my Mumma bear.
Love you ❤️
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