Borderline Personality Disorder

Hello @Alice1993,

A very warm welcome to the forums from myself, I hope you find some support for yourself 🙂

Please let me know if you have any problems getting around the forums, I'm happy to talk you through it!

You mentioned you are wanting some more information on BPD, you might want to firstly read through our BPD Factsheet as well as read some online resources on the BPD Foundation Australia website, I'll put in the links below:

SANE BPD Factsheet

BPD Foundation Australia

Like you said, it takes a lot of knowledge and experience to know how to diagnose someone with a specific mental illness and particularly BPD, so please try not to self diagnose as the symptoms for BPD are quite similar to many aspects of people's personality in certain stages of life. It's important to receive that diagnosis from a Psychologist who has experience with BPD, you can find the appropriate psychologist using the APS website 'Find a psychologist' service:

Australian Psychological Society

Find a Psychologist Service

Hopefully these help you as a start, I look forward to getting to know you better 🙂

Lunar

Borderline Personality Disorder was created in the 1980's by the American Psychiatric Association for their DSM III book, as a classification of something which could be treated by Psychiatrists with mind altering pills. The 'cause' is always environmental however.

Hi @Alice1993,

I thought I'd point out some members that have a diagnosis of BPD and some threads that you might want to read and contribute to.

@notmyrealname has written here about living with BPD, and the struggles they encounter with connecting with someone.

@Change123 has also written about their experiences here

May I ask why your curious? I ask becuase it might help our members answer your question with a bit more depth.

Cheers,

CherryBomb

@cait,

The 'label' was created, so that a collection of symptoms could be given a name, then be used by the psychiatric industry as a reason to try pills. But as you were saying it's environmental, so thats where the cure needs to be.

Someone who is irate or putting on another personality in different situations shouldn't be given a term and solidified as permanent in any way, it should be "I'm feeling this in these situations, what do you think is the cause"

My problem with labels is that it stops you from adapting and changing and evolving. If you find a train stop you like you sit there and nothing gets better.

For each person the cause needs to be discovered. In children they always have social services they can call to remove them from their family, if their family is so critical and antagonistic that they can't stay stable and thrive.

A lot of things can cause emotional pain. There's schools of thoughts in some books I'm reading about during any 'unconscious moment' or moment of pain, someone antagonistic can jump on your grave and basically make you fearful of anything, or give you a habit of doing something. You can also have a routine of doing something (without 'yourself' involved) that you've learned to do as a way of better thriving/survival which almost always includes being ultra critical/commanding/confusing (demonology) to yourself and others, like a lot of army commanders... some can be actually practical like CPR or in sport but some get in the way. All of the "odd responses" or habits or anything like that tend to come back to a moment of pain of not being able to thrive/survive as you were before without a whacky addition... until you realise you were fine before and it was the antisocial company who were being an asshole (or passing on their pain). It comes down to practicality.

You're right about unsafe/dramatic environments not being a good place to grow up in. But you should look back and uncover it all and see the things you didn't like... when you felt you should have walked out/not put up with it/just being there temporary for food and shelter/not falling for any of it.

Some pain can be masked by covers/denial instilled by someone telling you "everything is alright"... you need to see that it obviously isn't, in order to uncover further pain, further details...that the person is lying, and basically putting their pain on you.