Battles

@MJG017 I know how to give up and today I've done just that. I'm physically, mentally and emotionally done!. I quit, life's knocked me down too many times and I don't have it in me to get up and fight again.

@MissGremlin

Obviously it's been a lot theses past few weeks. And on top of all the stuff that you've been dealing with for years, it's okay to just have some days when you just need to give up. Do want you need to do to, you've at the very least earned that. But when it comes time to get up and fight again, I'm confident you'll find a way. In the meantime, is there anything we can do to help get your mind onto something more fun or relaxed?

@MJG017 how did your catch up with your sister go?

@MissGremlin

Really good. She had to leave for work so it would have been nice to have some more time. I did say I would call her after my appointment with the Hong Kong specialist on Tuesday. She also mentioned she is thinking of going to Canberra to visit our other sister in July and maybe I would like to go as well. I said definitely, and then immediately remembered our chat about getting hopes up. But hopefully it happens.

@MJG017 oh that sucks that she had to leave for work, hopefully you can catch up again soon. Really hoping some good news comes out of that appointment on Tuesday, well I'm keeping everything crossed for you. That would be nice to go over and visit your other sister, I know the worry of getting your hopes up but I really hope that happens for you and you get to go and see her.

@MissGremlin

I really hope the trip to Canberra happens. I'm not sure how many more chances I will get to see them. I haven't even heard from them since they came over to Adelaide for Christmas in 2023. But I just can allow myself to get too excited. I've been her far too many times in the past.

@MJG017 i really hope it happens for you. I get that you can't get too excited about it, that fear of being let down is far too strong. It's not fair that you may not get many more opportunities to see them, that part really breaks my heart.

@MissGremlin

It's weird with biological familes when you find them. They're your flash and blood, but still strangers. People you never grew up with. There's a connection that you feel in your heart should be there, but just isn't. Some adoptees manage to find it after finding their family, but from I think it's pretty rare.

@MJG017 i do understand the feeling a bit. Like I have family in England (great, great uncles and aunties) but I'll never get to meet them, I've talked to them through messenger but only a couple of times a year if that. My aunt that lives here i haven't seen for 13 years and I won't have contact with her cos of what sort of person she is, nor do I have contact with her 2 kids (my cousins). My poppa died when I was 3 and my mums mum and her other daughter were killed in a car accident by a drunk driver when my mum was 4 years old. Anyway I probably didn't need to go into that and don't know why I even did so I'm sorry about that. I'd say it's very rare to make that connection but I guess it all depends on the circumstances.

Anyway I'm out of here. Take care of yourself and thanks for everything.

@MissGremlin

I guess there's many reasons why we may not have much of a connection with our biological families. Whatever the reason, I think it's just kind of sad. Its the group of people we're born into and should always be a part of. It should be home... A place of safety and comfort. But clearly, it doesn't always work out that way. It's hard to replace.