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Alice11Contributor
I'm needing some help. how does one continue . over the last 2yrs i have lost everything except 2 friends. i have lost 2 family members, 2 very much-loved pets. 1 by age and 1 by murder. i lost my home and job. today in a group i attended was about hope, it got me thinking and to be honest i feel like i have none.
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@Alice11 watching video clips can be a good distraction. That's understandable not being able to commit to it right now, maybe things will change in the future and you can get back to doing it.
Do you catch up with your friends sometimes or see your family?
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Alice11Contributor
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Alice11Contributor
@Former-Member i have a sister i catch up with occasionally and i have the friends in the house where i have my caravan placed for the moment but do have to move soon, that i see but i try to stay out of the way
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@Alice11 that's nothing to feel guilty about. Like @Appleblossom said we all grieve in different ways and losing pets can be just as hard if not harder than losing family members.
I always have music on 😊.
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@Alice11 it's good that you have your sister that you catch up with occasionally. We as humans need that connection with others even if it's only sometimes. Are you looking for a place of your own when you have to move?
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
Grief is so complex and is usually related to the whole relationship. @Alice11 If you are dealing with 4 griefs, it will probably be a while to untangle all the feelings. Sometimes it can be like being hit with a double whammy…. Or like a trauma response … triggers cascade and it is cumulative.
Journaling can help…. By recording thoughts and feelings… and to externalise … often the emotion and emphasis can shift over time
I have found hope… can spring up when we aren’t expecting… but it also can be elusive…
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Alice11Contributor
@Former-Member yeah I'm looking for something by myself,
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Alice11Contributor
@Appleblossom i am overwhelmed by the smallest thing. i have lost all confidence. i use to have a tight grip on reality and what i wanted out of life but now im just lost if that makes sense
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@Alice11 hopefully you can find something. Then maybe you can start doing the wildlife caring again 😊.
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JynxModerator
@Alice11 sounds like you've been hit with a HUGE amount of stress lately. It's no wonder you're feeling this way! It may take some time before you're able to find the path forward... but we will happily support you along your journey as best we can 😚
If you've not come across them yet I'd definitely recommend Griefline for some extra support too 😊💜
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