Life can be a Pain

I'm so very sorry for the painful loss of your precious children. I can't even begin to imagine the pain. @Former-Member, @Owlunar

I know with my Dad was very hard to say when the hospital rang me up at 1am to say the all his organs have shut down after his masive stroke , do i want to keep him alive -- I knew dad would hate that and i had to say no = that is the hardest thing i had to do

so when mum had her massive surgery this year and the doctor said she might not pull through -- wow that was hard , but she did and she is still recovering from it

@Owlunar@Former-Member

sending strength to help you get through this tough time. i cant possibly imagine what you both are going through

lots of love and hugs to you both

Hi @Shaz51

Thanks for your kind thoughts - and I am thinking of you regarding your parents

My dad passed when it was his time and left with dignity - other people in the family saw it in their own way I guess - but to me he was ready to go and I had a good relationship with him and as hard as it was when he died I felt and still feel okay with it - maybe because he did

My mum was different - and that was harder to get past - but I am past it now. I had to see a therapist because it was really hard to know that although in my adult mind I knew things would never improve between us - some part of me must have thought differently and so that was harder to get past

And your Mum is a tough old lady I guess - to have survived all that surgery and so serious as well - and she is still getting over it - you will be in my thoughts

Losing my son was far worse and I realised that at the end of the year he would have been 48 - wow - I can't imagine that

All the best Shaz and I hope your health is improving a little and your infections are settling

Hugs - Dec

Hi @outlander

Thanks for your thoughts - it is always a good thing to have someone acknowledge where we are when it comes to invisible stuff

I have been thinking while I have been taking time out - I remember when I was younger and there seemed to be nothing to hope for and life seemed to be impossible - I do understand your difficulties as well

Dec

Hard yes @Former-Member but it means more if you read the stories of people. sometimes i dont know what to write or say. sometimes words in these cases just arent enough.

but i am here and supporting you. Not an easy time for you at all but you have a very large heart and it shows with every post

@Owlunar yes its very hard and its invisible but most of the time its obvious through what and how you write it. you write with such thought and passion its easy to follow along with what you say. and this is hard- very hard and that i wont understand. i dont have kids nor have i lost a child so how could i. but im here for you and supporting you.

i know you understand- youve been through the wringer yourself but please make sure you take care of you first

@Former-Member, @outlander, @Owlunar

hi @Shaz51

@Former-Memberthats right SURVIVORS!