Life can be a Pain

I loved " the Taste of Tasmania" @Zoe7

I have been to Tasmania twice and I loved it , Mr shaz wanys to go back and do the waterfalls trips again

And I am sorry you won't be going away Shaz - I had the feeling Mr Shaz would get worried about something - how rotten to feel like that - it is sad @Owlunar

But we have gone to sydney, Tasmania and road trips before , mr shaz enjoyed them , but now he is becoming more wanting to stay home

I don`t know , but i used to suggest things and do these things but over time with mr shaz changing his mind and saying no , ( have I losing the get up and go , to encourage him , to push him to do more ofhis hobby -- which he seems to be losing interest in

maybe it is everything that has happen like my mum not being well , me with my physical problems

do our attitude change overtime ??

do we give in to these changes or do we try to keep things going ?

Anyway D1 hasbooked us in to visit her in Darwin for a week in May

I will get some bird seed at the supermarket tomorrow, good idea , and they will find the birdbath @Owlunar , one day a bird will hop in there and they might do it when you are not watching xx

Our interests do change over time as well @Shaz51 - there are so many factors involved and getting older is definitely one of them. I have always liked being at home but I used to travel more - Toby has certainly stopped that (and money and my MH) but before Toby I wouldn't leave Cat alone either. You have been dealing with so much with your mum and Mr. Shaz my sister - so a trip away would be good for you - just need to convince Mr. Shaz of that - so hard when he doesn't really want to leave the house

I have always liked being at home but I used to travel more, me too, I have travelled a lot before @Zoe7, @Owlunar

but even I love being at home more now

Mr shaz will go to D1 as she is a home person and has MI like her dad , so it will be a nice relaxing time , so it will be good

Glad that Mr. Shaz will go to visit D1 @Shaz51 and it will be a nice week for you to be away from home but still relaxing.

I am going to head off for a while and get the washing done and hung out. Then might do some more painting. Not going to that Taste now as the people we were going to go with aren't going either - might go over the weekend just with my sister though - depends on the weather. Catch you later my sister and @Owlunar

have a nice day my sister @Zoe7

and my second mum @Owlunar

@Owlunar Found this and had to share with you.

Hey @Shaz51 @outlander

and dear @Zoe7 fluttering around the threads.

LOL @Appleblossom I have been venturing out a bit lately - must be the season - don't want anyone to feel alone. I can't get to everyone but trying to get to many. I very much miss my forum friend F&H so I suppose I am filling that gap a little too.

@Zoe7 I miss @Faith-and-Hope too.

She has been an inspiration and a great presence on the forum.

You are doing good too.

It really is so much harder without my buddy here but I know she is still with us by her supports and that gives me a heartlift every day @Appleblossom. She is still an inspiration to me and I hope I am filling some of the void she is leaving whilst away in helping out in more threads. Part of the reason I have been fluttering around a little more is because I know what a massive hole she leaves without her being able to post and support people here - anything I can do fill that gap just a little bit I am happy to try to do.

How are you going Apple? Are you still struggling Hon. Here to listen if you need

@Zoe7

I have settled and you and the forum helped.

Also me not pushing myself to extremes. I am sad, but not in a dangerous mental space any more. My son is in his room all the time, has not talked about his time with dad, which I knew to expect, but it is still sad. Probably better than opening up my old wounds.

We arent eating together. I am facing that he is not well and that we both need kid glove approach. Making a Russian salad today. Just keeping healthy food available so he does not blow all his money getting take away. I have promised him that I would check him every 24 hours if he does not come out. Just put light sheet over him instead of blanket. He is up all night, like when I first joined the forum, but this time I am trying to keep day/night routine, though I am influenced. He is good at being quiet. Its not like it used to be when he took advantage at my end of the house. He does not play piano loudly next to my bedroom anymore. But I ache that he struggles so much, and that it reduces his life opportunities.