Life can be a Pain

Hello @Owlunar

Last Easter I spent 4 days nursing my foot -- I remember @Owlunar, I was holding your hand xx

how did I survive that - anyway, we, your forum friends were with you

I got a generic email from my rellies in Tassie - everyone got the same email - everyone --- same here my friend -- But I got a text message and it was sendt to me and all the est of the family too

So today I decided to make soup - vegetable and barley and bacon -- that sounds nice , my dietician wants me to loss some weight to take the stress off the kidney and to stop the pre diabetes

my Siactia is playing up again , and Hubby is not into this new healthy thing , he has very high cholestrol as well now

hugs my wonderful friend

Thanks @Shaz51 and @utopia

Having friends is so important and it seems the Forum Family are about for each other more - just get on line and jump in anywhere and some of your friends are likely to be about

How about @Tawnz - ah @Tawnz - Happy Easter Tawnz

Utopia- myu parents both died in a January - 4 years apart - my father went easily but my mother hung on for days and TS hovered - something I felt uneasy about - and I felt it was very bad that we sat and ate our mother's dinner while she was just a body lying there and I had the strong feeling her spirit had moved on

And that memory is one I have control over - but still feel sorry for her - that she lived such a strange life

Holidays can be dangerous like that - so far so good - I realised that Saturday is nearly past as well

Shaz - it's important to have a good - or at least the best you can - diet - but your husband not wanting to improve his when he has high cholestrol makes it harder - does he insist on your cooking two meals or does he just go to bed or something?

I insist on a good diet - says I - munching baby Easter Eggs

Dec

No hubby is alright @Owlunar, only cooking one meal but adding more veges and and cutting my amount down

Hello @Owlunar @Shaz51 @utopia @Faith-and-Hope

my sister and new friend came for lunch. first time my sister has been here without mum. for those of you who are confused (very easily done reading my posts) my mum recently moved into a nursing home.

it was lovely to see her and meet him. we had a lovely couple of hours talking, sat around the dinner table.

when they left, i felt quite lost, out of sorts. i think that i unknowingly missed my mum's presence.

we will see her on monday and my younger son will meet us there.

dec I do think easter, christmas breaks are very family orientated for those of us who grew up in that environment.

i dont know who TS is, however I read your words that you are not sure about intruding on your relatives. If they are important to you, you are not intruding, you are thinking of them and letting them know that by ringing. Trust your intuition not your suspicions or doubting voices. Sometimes we imagine all sorts of conversations and replies in our minds and that is exactly what they are imagining.

As I said I do not know your story, however I do know that you are an intelligent, caring lady who can trust herself.

I wish all of you a happy easter and yes it feels nice to just pop on here briefly, check who is around and send a friendly hello, waving at you all xxxxx

hello @utopia

thank you, mum is very conscientious about sugar.

however I did find some english fig rolls and I know we used to love them. So I will take them in.

we are all on a journey in this life forever changing around us and I think that is part of the answer.

accepting change

xxxxxx

Hi @Decadian

Thinking of you.

I am wary of going onto fb atm regarding dealing with my rellies, I might wait til Easter has well and truly passed.

I made a decision re my sister's coroners report. I have had so much going on for myself lately I just have not been able to face it, but I think I will wait for her anniversary and attend to as much of it as I can as part of my rememberance.

I re-arranged more photos and I now have about 5 of her that I love, all together on my bedroom wall.

My back & neck are feeling sore and so I can totally agree with you "Life Can be a Pain", but I like the way you phrased your thread title. It isnt always a Pain, even when we live in chronic pain. There are special moments here & there to treasure.

Hi @Appleblossom

I get it - I understand - I think I will leave it until after Easter until I contact my rellies too - I have had enough trouble keeping my own head out of the water - it's enough just to survive - and not feel bad about the past - without opening other stuff up

What I remember is hearing someone say - "Don't ask the question if you don't know what to do with the answer" - I reckon if I ring up and get my aunt and her "keep off" attitude it will make the world seem darker than it needs to be -

It's wise to have a plan about your sister's coroner's report - yes - keep it until her anniversary - keep it until you are ready - I will still be about to help

And yes - Life Can Be a Pain - it's not always a pain - pain is part of life after all

That way I could accept the headache I had all day yesterday - and today it's Monday - Easter is almost over - tomorrow and Wednesday I have domestic help - two days in a row - ah well - someone else can do the pile of ironing - I know people take holidays at Easter - that is apart from the public holidays - surely people realise that those of us who live alone really need the company - ah darn - I don't get lonely - mostly I have a need to chat with people

About your sister Apple - you can keep that report forever without reading it - I do understand - you have no idea how it will affect you when you read it - it can be very hard - you need a plan when you read it

Dec

Hi @Former-Member

Having your Mum in a nursing home is hard yards - my mother was in a more classy sort of place - I guess physically she didn't need such a high degree of nursing but she had some kind of dementia and for 2.5 years I did not visit - she yelled at me to "Get out here" so I have her what she wanted - we never got on - but it is different for every family - I understand that - but I hope I never have to leave my home - I prefer it

Christmas and Easter breaks are tough though - I am not lonely - just alone - and I never feel really well after days alone like the holidays - hard to say what - Easter I could blame eating chocolate - but it's not that - Easter is worse for me because my son went into prison after Easter a long long time ago - ahd he died there - I have bad memories through this time of year and I think that is normal but still horrible

TS is my Toxic Sister - I have been dreaming about her lately - she is an interferring and bossy person I could do without - I am never sure how to take her and never prepared. There is always the hope that she will come to her senses but it's a faint one

I think I will wait until after Easter to contact my rellies - my uncle is getting on in years and is frail now - waiting until after Easter doesn't feel intrusive and it doesn't conflict with Blessed Easter messages - it will be more personal

Sometimes I think I need to get myself better organised but then - I cope alone and pay my bills and I come apart less as I older so yes - I think I am capable of taking care of myself - but I am very easy to push away - yet I need to keep in touch with my relatives -

It's hard without your mother in your life when she is in a nursing home - it must be hard visiting too

Dec