Life can be a Pain

Hi @Bast

My dentist explained to me why dental pain is so bad and really among the worst kinds of pain if severe - and that's because the nerves in the jaw are actually part of the brain and wow - I know this really does hurt

I forgot in my previous post I have had some abscessed teeth and I know the pain - I have had root-fillings - even after a lot of broken teeth and extractions of the roots I have a tooth with a root filling left - aw - that pain in brutal - and it seems to have had an extra bad turn

I am not sure about your plate though - ulcers and gum pressure - yeah - I know - since I have been wearing my partials at night I have that myself but not constantly - I do take my lower denture out during the night sometimes but I am wondering about yours because it really does sound excessively painful

Yes - chronic pain does take over our lives - and I have to think dental pain is worse - I can tell you I have very strong medication by injection now and again for my back pain but this does not help dental pain - strong tablets do but severe pain in your teeth or gums doesn't respond that well - I understand you need to be presentable for your work but if this is taking over your life this is serious

My back pain is classed as serious - and I can see myself the damaged discs and spinal cord pressure in my MRI. It's unpleasant but compared with dental pain - ahhh - had to really say but my short and serious pain a few weeks ago felt so bad I couldn't bear to touch the tooth with my tongue so I hear you

It sounds to me as if that plate is not quite suitable for you - or needs adjusting

I care a whole lot - I know how lives can be invaded - indeed it is a long time ago since my spinal pain became so bad and how had to was to get people to believe me until I had tests that showed the damage - I really do care about your teeth and your plate etc and hope something can be done so you can go on working as a counselling therapist - that sounds important and I so wish things were better

Dec

Hi @Appleblossom

I love nuts too and I still manage cashews - I buy them in a packets that means they are already cut up and sort of fused into squares with rasperries

But since wearing dentures all the time to keep the pressure off my right wisdom teeth - I can still chew meat on those two btw - but I was doing ALL my chewing on those two wisdom teeth - I might get back onto some harder nuts when I am sure that all is right with the tooth that gave me all that trouble

And so glad you have nuts and your son is learning to enjoy them too - I love nuts - they contain a lot of nutrients

How has your long weekend been Apple?

Dec

@Owlunar @Former-Member @Bast just popping in to say HI

HI @Zoe7

I know your health is a constant battle - I wish things were easier for you and I hope it's ok-ish for you

It's great that you took the time to drop in here - great to see you

It's a beautiful day in Melbourne - it has been great all Easter - but back-pain - I am wondering if it has anything to do with my arthritic knees - I llke to move around more but I find that getting up and down a lot through the day is not helping a lot

All the best Zoe - and thanks

Dec

I am pretty good atm @Owlunar

I can pop sunflower seeds into salads etc now.

Arthritis is a real bummer. I am a bit afraid of how mine will develop. Think that is why I like doing lots of music as it lifts my mind out of my body ... does that make sense ... in a good way ...

Take care

I often think of you @Owlunar but today is the first day for a very long time that I have 'ventured out' to a few different threads. I am slowly, slowly regaining some sense of safety on here - there are still some threads and members I need to try to avoid in order not to be triggered but that is decreasing daily.

I started DBT last week and that in itself was a very triggering session - took me a few days to 'settle'!

I am getting much better at leaving discussions on here when I am not feeling good myself - no matter how much support someone needs - as you know, sometimes we just need to step back and let others help for our own well-being and if there is no-one else around then that is not our gap to fill.

It is windy and cool in Hobart today - great day for snuggling on the couch with a little white fluffball

So sorry about your back pain @Owlunar - any pain is hard to manage but you do such an amazing job with what you put up with. I don't have nearly the extent of pain you have Dec... and my physical pain has certainly improved over the last couple of months - just the emotional 'stuff' I continue to deal with

That's great to hear @Appleblossom

I am glad you can enjoy sunflower seeds - I remember when we had sunflowers growing where we had tossed out the bird seed years ago - really good fun - I like them and might try and grow a few some time when I am eating them

Emotional I feel okay - playing the piano is always relaxing even through I play a lot of self-creations maybe once - by ear - sometimes reading music - I am lifted away from myself too - it makes perfect sense to me -

Arthritis - there is not much we can do about arthritis - we either have it or we don't and I have a lot of it and my knees letting me know about it right now - the knee braces are helping I think

To be honest I feel a little delicate today but not pushing myself - just cruising

It's great you dropped in

Dec

Delicate and cruising @Owlunar

That is me a lot of the time.

My problem is that I put a lot of pressure on joints through working or music. So I keep rotating activities.

Holbien Maria met kinder

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Hi again @Zoe7

I am really glad you ventured out today - I know what you mean about some threads being too hard - some things I just can't reply to because I don't have any experience in those areas and there are a few that trigger me too - best to keep away from those

There is always someone to fill in the gaps - if they can be filled - I don't keep track of many but sometimes I hope there is someone who can identity

But then - a new member will post something I can really - really understand and I do - I try read new-coming info - it's amazing and sad to read at times but this is what the forum is about

I think DBT is Dialectical Behavioural Therapy - is talking about it - I am not sure what my therapist is trying - maybe a mixture of things - she finds me interesting which is itself interesting. Um - yes.

Often I ask myself what causes people not to feel good about themselves - my mother was really nasty at times and I think I brought a lot of it on myself because of my spirit - she did break my brother's spirit but not mine - and fought her - hitting back when I was very young but then I became a tough nut for her and although I did not always back-answer her I did have a "look" she couldn't understand of fathom -

But truthfully - I think I only really found myself after my mother died - when I saw my relatives in Hobart a few weeks ago they were amazed at how well I am - and that is psychological health - physically as well but mostly I do not have the strain I had when my mother was in care and I walked out and each day made the decision not to go back - this was the best thing I could have done and I don't feel guilty or have regrets about it but it was not easy

I hope the DBT works for you - if I am having any of that happening in my sessions yes - it is confronting and I feel really emotional - but it seems to evaporate when I get home and take time to reflect - and Companion Cat seems to know and wants to cuddle and know how great it is to have a small, norty-torty - and I am glad you have your little white fluff ball

You do a great job in some threads though Zoe - and I am glad you have less physical pain - emotional pain is harder - and honestly though - we can't know how another person interprets pain - I just know back and knees are giving me a hard time today - lately - as the weather is cooler

But I love Hobart - all of Tassie really - I have been over most of it - and wish I could go back and will when my knees are not giving me just a hard time -

Keep up the good work Zoe

Dec

I have found one thread that I know you find triggering very difficult lately too. I think I have been quite blunt when needed and more supportive when the 'tone' has been a little less confronting - it makes a such a difference to how we support others @Owlunar - I know you get that

I am not at all convinced that doing DBT right now is the right thing for me but a place became available much earlier than expected - mainly because my pdoc 'pulled some strings' to get me in. I need to trust that she thinks it is the right thing for me and persevere despite my reluctance.

I am so pleased you made it to Hobart to see your relatives - I know how very important that was to you - and I am even happier that the visit went well.

Also great to hear that you are doing quite well psychologically - it makes such a difference