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Life challenges

Life challenges

So I wanted to share a bit about myself and what I'm facing in life.

I've had health issues throughout my life things like arthritis, scoliosis, heart problems etc. Things that have mostly been able to be treated with medications. But last year I was diagnosed with cancer and it's been a hell of a fight ever since. I've undergone several surgeries, chemotherapy, radiation therapy and things were looking ok. But recently I was told that the cancer had spread and I'm probably not going to make it to see my 50th birthday which for me is less than 3 years away.

I haven't got any support around me and this information has been hard for me to process. Whilst I knew my life was on borrowed time it never really sunk in until I was sat down and told the facts.

As you can imagine with everything I've gone through during my life I suffer from mental health issues and recently that's become alot worse. For me I don't want to get to that point where my body is shutting down.

I don't like not being in control but at the moment everything is out of my control, I'm reliant on medical teams, medications, other people trying to work out what the next step is. I'm unsure whether I want to put my body through more chemo or radiation therapy or whether to just let this ride its course. Even doing it it's only going to buy me a little bit more time so is it really worth it or do I just try to enjoy what time I have left.

Anyway that's a bit of my story and what I'm facing. Thanks for reading.

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@Hopeandlove sounds like you are still thinking clearly and you are advocating for yourself which is excellent.

Don’t forget Cancer Council for suggestions for help with things they are very good

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@Till23 I will try and ring the cancer council when I have a bit of energy.

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Or @Hopeandlove just check out their website. The phone line is not 24/7. I’m sure you are exhausted though.

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@Till23 didn't think to check out their website. Brain isn't quite with it.

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@Till23 @Former-Member @MJG017 @tyme @ just thought I would give you an update. I had my phone appointment with my GP today and he called an ambulance to get me taken to hospital. I've been admitted as I'm severely dehydrated and tests have shown that I have sepsis on top of everything else going on. I may not be on much as I'm sleeping alot and if I'm not sleeping I'm not completely with it anyway

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@Hopeandlove Thanks so much for the update.
I am so glad you went through with GP appointment and are now in hospital being properly treated.

I was extremely worried about your fluid intake and fatigue in the last couple of days. It sounded like you needed to be in hospital.

Hopefully you are on IV fluids and antibiotics and are able to just rest without needing to prepare food etc.

Try to just let the staff help you and just have a good rest and not worry about being looked after.

Were still here when you’re well enough to get on the forums and I will look forward to hearing from you.

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@Till23 when I spoke to my GP and let him know what had cen happening he straight away new something was wrong. I'm on IV fluids and antibiotics and they have given me something for the nausea which is helping, it's great to not feel sick for the first time in the last few days.

I'm not able to get up to walk which means I need help with going to the toilet which feels so degrading and embarrassing.

Having been so independent and now having to be dependent on others is a big adjustment for me to have to accept.

I'll keep you updated when I can. Thankyou for your support 💙

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I’m so glad you’re having a positive experience with your treatment @Hopeandlove

Yes, I have a healthcare background, which is why I was so concerned and suggested calling an ambulance yourself, but you’re where you need to be now.

It is hard to depend on other people when you’ve been so independent. However, it is the best thing to have that support right now. The staff are used to assisting patients and it is their job, so try not to feel bad about it.

I wish you a speedy recovery and relief from symptoms.

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Heya @Hopeandlove

I’m so glad you’re in the right place to get the care you need. We have all been so worried about you. Please focus on resting and letting the nurses and dortors look after you.

We’re all thinking of you and sending lots of strength and positive thoughts your way. Take it one step at a time, and when you’re up to it, we’ll be here for you.

Warmest regards

Snuggles 🥰 🫂

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Thank you to you both @Former-Member @Till23 💙

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