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creative_writerSenior Contributor
Why can’t I pretend the pain isn’t real, maybe if I tell myself I’m okay and I don’t struggle with mental health I’ll be okay. Maybe if I tell myself that the traumatic memories aren’t real, then I can finally feel whole and less gross. Maybe I’ll just wake up from this dream soon and I’ll find peace within my mind when I do wake up. Maybe I’m okay, maybe there isn’t anything wrong with me
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rav3nSenior Contributor
hey @creative_writer i hear that those intrusive thoughts have been racing around. has there been anything that's helped in managing those recently?
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JynxModerator
Pssst... You GOT THIS @creative_writer 😎💜
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rav3nSenior Contributor
@creative_writer i agree with jynx, you got this!!
i'm really glad that you're working hard to stay safe, i know it's not easy. even if its taking things minute by minute, second by second - each moment is a win. sitting with you 💜
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
@Jynx @rav3n
Maybe it’s just been a long day, it’s just hard to get myself settled. I’m safe for now, though I have mixed feelings about staying safe. It’s sort of a push and pull thing
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JynxModerator
Makes sense @creative_writer since SH and SI are both forms of coping. The push pull might be the tension between leaning on a coping tool that has 'worked' in the past, and not wanting to do that because you know it doesn't work really. But the desire to lean towards external sources of regulation is pretty strong sometimes hey.
I'm glad you're safe for now hun. You got some steps you can take if things feel like they're taking a downward turn?
Hugs 🫂
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