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BlueBaySenior Contributor
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Hello @Former-Member,
Sorry you are currently feeling like you are struggling to get through the day, that sounds really hard.
I think what you wrote "I've made it so far, surely I can make it again?" is a really helpful thing to focus on, that shows so much strength and resilience. Maybe it's about focusing on some of those positive and more helpful qualities that you have at the moment which might make things easier during the day, just take one day at a time 
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utopiaSenior Contributor
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@utopia@Former-Member@Former-Member@BlueBay
I would really like to know what gets me in the position of feeling suicidal or feeling like hurting myself. I don't understand the concept. I've been told that there is an underlying emotion if I am angry, and I should try to identify that. Is that the same with suicidal and self harm thoughts? Do I have to find out what the underlying cause is?
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Hi @Former-Member,
i think I feel a bit like @utopia. For me the suicidal thoughts come from total overwhelm and hopelessness. From not being able to see that it will ever get better, that you will always feel like this so what's the point of living. The SH comes from strong emotions that I can't cope with like internal anger mostly or from the feeling of overwhelm.
Ive only been living with this for about 4 years and it hasn't got better but the understanding of it does help. As @utopia said I think it's maybe helpful to document it when you are bad but then only work through it better when you are through the wave of it. It's impossible in the height of the wave to work too much out. I'm only just learning that in the past month myself
i hope this helps. Thinking of you and sending hugs 💜🤗💐
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