expectations=disappointment

@Heart,

that is terrible that your counsellor told you you were expecting too much from your husband. In what way? By wanting to have another child? Having children is a pretty common thing for married couples to do.... I hardly see it as too great an expectation. I think it is very reasonable.

Your counsellor might have been a very odd man.

The thing is, we can absolutely have high expectations of the people who love us.... and yet they are only human and it's possible they could let us down. But if you are up-front and honest about what you want... then our loved ones have the chance to explain to us that they are not comfortable with with certain expectations... and that's ok too.

Not everyone is capable of delivering and being there for us. Some people really are very limited emotionally, socially and mentally. They may never change and they may not want to change. That's when we have to decide what we will or wont learn to live with.

You might say (just for example) "My husband is a very limited man... he really isn't capable of giving me more that 40% of what I need. But I can live with that."

You might get some emotional support from friends and relatives and learn to get by. Or you might decide to explore other options.

Personally, I decided to explore other options in my life, when I realized my ex would never change. But we weren't even married.

Ohhh Hello @Heart

sending you hugs my friend

That is what was happening to me in my marriage

Time to find a new counsellor .... one who is in your corner ..... I agree with @Faith-and-Hope

my husband`s Counsellor said to me "it was my fault" ," I was not doing enough "

a lot of what you have said @Heart,, @Faith-and-Hope, @Sahara, i am going through

❤️💕 @Shaz51 .....