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Controlling and Mental Illness

Shaz51Senior Contributor29 Jan 2017, 4:55 pm AEDT

Controlling and Mental Illness

Hello Everyone

I have been writting this is another thread and I thought I would open a new thread to see if others feel the same way and what you do

Moderators let me know if it is ok to put here xx

Love to hear from others on the forum if you experience this

My hubby has been diagnosed with lots of things and has had MI all his life

do you find things goes ok and then i start to feel confident and wanting to go forward and then everytime something always happens to upset it

-- sometimes I think is it a controlling thing ?? that he wants to be in control ??

Don`t know if I am making this up , but i have that feeling ,

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor30 Jan 2017, 8:51 pm AEDT

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❤️ it @Appleblossom .... 😄

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Shaz51Senior Contributor30 Jan 2017, 9:14 pm AEDT

Re: Controlling and Mental Illness

@Faith-and-Hope, @Appleblossom

YEA !!!

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Unknown userMember30 Jan 2017, 9:39 pm AEDT

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Hi @Shaz51
Not another occasion to whip out the burnout buster book??
Is there something you can do for you to re-fuel?

Thanks @Faith-and-Hope @PeppiPatty,
there are things we need for our own well being, lover vs carer, laughter, hope.

Darcy

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DecadianSenior Contributor31 Jan 2017, 4:06 am AEDT

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Thanks @Faith-and-Hope

You are right - I could only work with what I knew at the time and I was so often frustrated - I did not want to break my marriage vows and in the end I was happy with a separation - it was him who wanted to remarry and wanted a divorce - so I don't have any guilt there - I worked as hard as I could to make things work and it never could

Aw - I just lost a whole lot of what I wrote - but the short story is that my husband and his sisters didn't know they had an older brother who was stillborn a year less a day before my husband they were born. They found out when .they saw their father's death certificate - in many ways I feel that my mil pushed her feelings down inside about her first child when she was pregnant and this has affected my husband for his whole life and it is a very sad story

My mother said it was her own business and she didn't have to tell anyone if she didn't want to - something I don't understand - but that's what happened and nothing can change the past and as you say there are things to be left in the past - but all that happened between my husband and my son still hurts and to a degree the silence of the past toward me

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DecadianSenior Contributor31 Jan 2017, 4:13 am AEDT

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Oh darn - part 2 @Faith-and-Hope

The silence between us will continue - my dd may pass on my best wishes - she doesn't want to talk about it and the only person who might is my sister-in-law and I don't have her address

The little I know is only that my sister il and son il have both indicated that not much happens - I am just glad he is out of my life

But still - I still hurt because he wanted a son so badly then could not help with him when things became so difficult -

I feel I was unfair though - but I did not understand and could have done better - but I can't change that now

But thanks again

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