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Hey folks!! This thread serves as a safe space for discussions around C-PTSD and childhood trauma, how it impacts us, and how we can cope and recover.
@Healandlove @Shaz51 help me kick things off? Who else would be keen on joining?
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avant-gardeSenior Contributor
Please note that I started writing this 10 days ago so it may feel a bit out of place with the current conversation...
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My DBT coordinator in 2016 called me a miracle...
That even when I was 20 when I started recovery I was trying to get better... trying to be normal...
There is no such thing as normal but he wasn't wrong in saying that I'm remarkable...
The problem solver in me saw me as a problem to be fixed... that I'm a writer and so writing is what became my outlet, unintentionally how I apparently started fixing me... that I've always believed that something was inherently wrong with me...
The world tells us that there is something wrong with us, something different about us, but they couldn't be further from the truth. We are the miracles in our world, the ones who fight the hardest battle and come out stronger, come out braver, come out how we have to because we've learned that we are worth fighting for.
We live out the statements "every time you thought you wouldn't make it, you were wrong and you are even stronger and more capable now" and "to be nobody but yourself in a world that's doing it's best to make you somebody else is to fight the hardest battle you are ever going to fight".
We learn that we don't just fight against the beliefs from our traumas, we fight the beliefs of so much of humanity, that we are more than what the world tells us, we are more capable than so much of the world sees.
That the ones who see us and walk alongside us in the constant battle are the ones who become our lifelong friends because they are far too rare to let go of easily.
We are not what is wrong with the world, we are the people that help make it right.
That is a beautiful thing, a wonderful thing, it's the thing that makes us all miracles, not just me.
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HealandloveSenior Contributor
@Shaz51 thank you my sister for your thoughts. I will continue to use this strategy.
I think that yes, he is dealing with a lot in his sessions and perhaps it takes him a few days to settle.
Walking away is the best strategy for now.
Things are calm and even today when my sister and nephews came to visit my parents, he held it together. He drove to the shops and spent sometime there trying to get a Christmas tree for my parents. When he came back his eyes were teary and I could tell he had been crying.
The brief conversation with my sister today reinforces how different we are. I have so much empathy for her but continue to realise that we are related by blood but nothing else. My mum was happy though to see us interact even though it was my sister talking and me listening. I wonder sometimes if my Mum uses me as a link to my sister because of the difference in generations? I'm not sure.
I have a sadness in me that hits me during these moments but hopefully I can ground myself in time for Christmas Eve.
🫂❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹
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JustSenior Contributor
Even reading your words, has me all churned up inside. 💥But that's just it. Little things trigger it and pow. Right back there. So I'm getting what your saying. It's like time warp. Can't shake it. Just have to Live with it.
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Till23Senior Contributor
I wish people understood that even though the trauma was a long time ago, people may still feel the effects very severely.
Questions like why can’t you just let it go or get over it just add to the trauma.
I wish people could understand how isolating it is, especially if one of the symptoms a person has is self-loathing.
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Till23Senior Contributor
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rav3nSenior Contributor
hey @Till23 i'm so sorry you feel this way. please know that you are deserving of support, and you are worthy of it. you know why? because you simply exist. everyone deserves to be heard and supported, not matter their status or age or income, etc. i know it can be hard not to compare yourself to other people's situations, but everyone has their own struggles/issues - but that doesn't invalidate yours. you are just as important, please remember that.
you deserve good things. mental health can go up and down, just like physical health. if we say someone's suffered with a physical health problem on and off, no one bats an eye, so why should we judge mental health any differently? i'm so glad you're here, and please know you matter to us.
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Till23Senior Contributor
Thank you to the brave people on here telling their stories
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Till23Senior Contributor
Thank you @rav3n
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DimitySenior Contributor
Hello @Till23 . A great deal of what you say resonates with my experience and life course, other than the cancer diagnoses. How are you now?
I'm glad you're in a stable financial and housing position, it helps a lot. But self sufficiency sometimes goes along with social isolation.
I too was a workaholic, losing a sense of worth and purpose when I retired. It's something I need to work on!
It sounds as though you haven't pursued therapy for your cptsd, and I understand your diffidence, but is it something you'd consider?
I'm glad you've found us, and I look forward to seeing you around.
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