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Something’s not right

Therapist issues...

Therapist issues...

Something happened in therapy on Tuesday that I'm very conflicted about...

I appreciate my therapist so so much... but part of it... towards the end... it stopped feeling like therapy and rather I was consoling her...

I understand that I'm really easy to talk to and it came out of a place of wanting to be completely transparent with me about the next year...

She's only become a full therapist march this year and has had to take extensive time off and left me in the lurch... now she's taking January off... and doesn't know if she's coming back...

She was open and transparent with me about her struggles with doing this job... she cares about her clients... she cares about me... but to share that she's so so overwhelmed and struggling... that she's staying for her clients... and me? consoling her? it feels like a shift...

and she asked me not to tell anyone...

I don't know what to do

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@avant-garde

Thank you!

I hope you feel a little less overwhelmed soon

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Have you considered what you are going to do @avant-garde ? Thinking of you.

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@tyme

Going to keep the 10th and 17th and switch to someone new in the new year through the same practice.

Have already replied to the supervisor saying that, she's going to call me next week to discuss this further.

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Are you comfy with this? @avant-garde

In a way, it's good to have closure I think. If you just walked away, it may not be the best for either party.

We support you in whatever you decide. If you don't feel comfy on the 10th, I'd encourage you to speak up.

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@tyme

Turns out it didn't matter if I was comfy or not... if I mattered or not... she left anyway... cancelled next week's appointment and transferred me to someone I can't even afford come the new year!

Same rebate, $20 increase because she's training to be clinical but not one my former therapist even mentioned! Just who "we think would be best for you"

WITHOUT EVEN ASKING ME

Yeah sure I'm fine, we're fine

I have no therapist for 5 weeks and you think I'm ok.

Not fine. Not ok.

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Yeah because leaving me without a therapist over Christmas is a flipping great idea isn't it!

Behind every strong person is a story that GAVE THEM NO CHOICE.

No choice I tell you!

But I'll get through it because you've given me no choice except to get through it!

No choice except to afford the next one.

No choice!

I hate this.

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Awww my dear @avant-garde ,

I'm sorry how hard this must be for you.

The loss of a therapeutic relationship is hard enough, let alone not being sure if you have someone after.

Did the supervisor speak to you, or the therapist themselves?

I'm here for you hun.

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@tyme

I had a session yesterday because she wanted me to "transition well" after she was completely unprofessional in our last session.

I've been allocated someone it was just someone we had never discussed because of the higher fees.

This was all discussed in the last session yesterday.

It won't hurt trying this new person because they're giving me the first session free to see if I fit with her.

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Thank you for sharing @avant-garde .

In a way, at least there was closure in a way?

Take a day at a time.

Please know we are here for you.

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@tyme

In a way yes, but I just hate that I felt I didn't have a say over who I had next and that next week was cancelled, it took away my control and autonomy in the situation

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