Loss of partner

Hi @kris1979

deeply sorry for your loss. I imagine this is quite difficult at the moment and you are feeling overwhelmed.
grief is never an easy process. Talking about how you feel is a really brave first step.

it really hasnt been easy and reaching out to others has been rather tedious and sometimes not helpful

Hi @kris1979

I'm sorry you've lost your partner, and at such a young age too! It must be so incredibly hard right now. I must admit, I've been down to Centennial Park more times that i would like over the past few years. And i know it does make it so much hard when you have to grieve alone.

But we're here if you want to talk about it and feel less alone.

thank you and thats where my partner is until such time her plan was to come home so thats where she will be but in an urn ... i tried to goto work today but only last about an hour and a bit

@kris1979 Dont feel like you have to rush back into anything right now. You may feel like you just want to do anything to distract yourself but you just need to give yourself time to grieve and just look after youself as well.

Would it help you to share a little bit about your partner with us? To share some of those great memories you have of her. Its completely understandable if that's too hard or painful right now, but it does help some people so it's just a thought I had.

Sorry again for you loss Kris. We're here for whatever you need from us right now.

she had been wheelchair bound since pretty much birth but like we did everything together goto botanic gardens goto the beach went to sydney twice and we loved going to food festivals and comedy shows the last one we saw was "fluffy" and spend a great deal of time down at glenelg cos that was our fave spot to go so yeah just everything

just getting help without being questioned and just the day was a struggle

@kris1979 . You made it through another day. Thumbs up.

thanks i still feel very lost and would like a bit more support than i have been getting i mean both my brothers have full time jobs so they cant help both mum and dad have passed and i feel like my partners family doesnt even really check up on me . im still seeing a psychologist but they can only do so much.

and i feel that the people who i thought i could reach out to dont have time for me ( i get they have their own lives and such) but just taking time out to either visit or just to see if im ok and such would help

I hear you @kris1979 Please know that we're always here for you, but it is completely understandable to be wanting some more support from those around you. Sometimes people don't know how to respond when a loved one is grieving, they might even be thinking that they don't want to be a bother to you while you're going through this.

Some people do really have a gift and will instinctively know how and when to show up for others, but then some people need to be prompted. I'm wondering if you would feel comfortable to reach out to your friends and let them know what you're needing right now? - Let them know that you're just needing them to be there from time to time and to check in on you. In an ideal world you wouldn't have to ask, but sometimes people need to be guided.