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Am Not Coping

Am Not Coping

I am really not coping at the moment but this is entirely on ME!

This is a message for a few people on here @utopia @Former-Member @Faith-and-Hope @Former-Member

that I asked could be passed on but it seems that only part of it has been and I understand from the responses that have made it through my emails that I have caused untold distress for some people. I was not going to return because of what I felt I put people through but I especially wanted @utopia and @Former-Member to know that they were not wrong at the time and I was going through a real crisis period. You both held me together for longer than I could myself until the point where my own self-destructive thoughts overwhelmed me.

The entire message that I sent to SANE is below:

I have just viewed the multitude of emails and messages sent from forum members and members of the SANE team – as well as the text and voice message left on my phone.

I have not been able to communicate with anyone since the other night as I have been recovering from what ended up being an unsuccessful attempt to end the pain.

At the time I was in a very distressed state and I did want to stop the pain and all I seemed to achieve is to cause others pain and worry and that is the last thing I wanted to do – I just wanted to end mine and say goodbye to everyone beforehand so my future absence was explained. I should have realised that the message I posted would have concerned some people but I really was not in any state to think about the repercussions for others.

I am so sorry I caused so much distress to others – that is something I will have to hopefully try and live with.

I don’t believe after the concern and anxiety I caused to so many that I will ever be able to return to the forum.

Can someone from the SANE team please explain all this to all those involved and pass on my gratitude for their compassion, concerns and kind words throughout the time I have been part of the ‘forum family’.

Thank you and sorry again for the difficult position I put everyone in.

Zoe7

I do not want any responses from any of you. I just wanted to let you know exactly what has happened and let you know how truly sorry I am for hurting people I have come to think of as friends and family, and who I really care about.

Your support, advice and compassion are what make you all the wonderful people you are.

@utopia and @Former-Member I am so sorry that the trust you placed in me has now been broken because of my actions. I also felt that we had a stronger connection, especially over the last week, and you both helped me in ways I cannot even describe or explain. I was not pulling away from you two - just wanted to pull away from myself. I couldn't cope with my own feelings and no-one or nothing was actually going to be able to stop me at the time. It's now just another failure to add to my list of failures. I really don't know what else to say to you both but to reiterate my heartfelt 'sorry'.

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Sleep tight stay warm @Zoe7 what a beautiful bunch of caring and insightful people on this forum. Thank you for your kindness

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I already have the heater on @Former-Member it is getting quite cold here at nigh time now. Hope you sleep well too

Love and hugs

Zoe

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Hello @Zoe7

This toy cat resembles my late cat who crossed over to rainbow bridge 15months ago. He was a red British shorthair who resembled Garfield. He was my soul cat. Miss him even though still have 2others.

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oh @Former-Member it doesn't matter how many others you have, nobody replaces anybody and you will always have a little paw print of his on your heart. Although you will always find comfort in others!@Zoe7 I'll have the fan on tonight where I am out west! xx

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Thanks nooks xx

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We never lose the love we have for our fur babies @Former-Member - so sorry for your loss I miss the cat that I had for 14 years - and it has been 8 years since she passed. She was a bit like your British shorthair - my coul cat also - saved me a few times when times were tough just having that unconditional love and companionship.

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@Former-Member seriously - the fan on - rub it in lol

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Hi @Shaz51

Over-doing it will do it every time Shaz - gotcha

And so glad you are getting your hearing aid back - I know how I felt when I left my - wait for it - upper partial denture with all my front teeth on it at the dentist for the day to have it relined

I had such a bad day - I wouldn't talk to the taxi driver without putting my hand in front of my face - so silly - he was driving and not looking at me I am sure

Yeah - but I could still hear

btw - you like a little story I know - I went to visit my deaf mother years ago when she and Dad were living in a really classy care place - and she was deaf and wouldn't wear her hearing aids - her choice

But when she and I were walking toward her room she kept yelling at me and I could not answer because my mouth was dry and my teeth were causing me to have an speech impediment.

And she yelled and yelled "What are you saying!!!! What did you saty!!!!What!!!"

And I am yelling back "I need a drink of water!!! My mouth is dry!!!! I can't talk right now!!!!"

I asked my doctor why she had to yell at me because I have no hearing problems. He told me she couldn't hear herself

I wonder if that was the problem all her life - she couldn't hear herself even before she lost her hearing

Losing your hearing must be among the worst things that happens - I know it's one of the things caused by maternal rubella - I had a friend with that health condition when I was a child

All the best Shaz

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Hi @Faith-and-Hope Having a bit of a sad day here so thought I'd check in with someone 'comforting'. How are you doing today? Any chance of painting today?

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Having a sad day myself @Zoe7 .... so we can console each other.

WH is being mean and I am avoiding him ..... but his exercise routine means he is out of the house for half the time too, so it's not too difficult to do that mostly.

He is interpreting my passive resistance to his e.d. as me being mean, so this is just part of his deluded thinking that we have to work around, and with S2 being unwell now (situational depression is pressing harder) WH is panicking and behaving worse .....

We will get there ..... his heavy handedness is getting things done in any case ..... he has marshalled S2 to the task of filling in all the forms to defer from his uni course this morning for instance, where S2 would otherwise be avoiding it cos it's overwhelming, so there's something of a silver lining anyway ....

I am escaping to the movies with a cousin at lunchtime for her birthday, so ear-marking this afternoon to get to the painting from down south again.

How is yours coming along ? Do you think you will be up to painting today ?

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