Am Not Coping

Ahhhh .... y e s .... thanks @Zoe7 😊

That sounds like a productive morning @MDT Enjoy relaxing the rest of today

Thanks @Former-Member @Zoe7 for your congratulatory wishes (& no need to start a new thread @Former-Member - I don’t know how to either!). I expect you’re all tucked up in bed by now, so sweet dreams 🛏😏💤 to everyone @MDT @Maggie @Shaz51

Thanks @Zoe7 fingers crossed housing will come through soonish. The manager has used a few bullying tactics, but I do have a good counsellor, she will step,in if need be. I'm just keeping things as calm as I can. The problem is that they have empty flats, they change very high rental, 80 % of our pension, so filling them is a problem. Back to basics and doing as little as I can, and hiding as much as possible.

Thanks for the support and understanding, means a lot.

I haven't read much of what's happening for you. I hope it's okish in the days of school planning. Lots of these for you.💕💜💜💕🐾🐾🐾

Hi @Sam3 @Former-Member @Shaz51 @MDT

80% of your pension is outrageous @Maggie no wonder you want to move - that doesn't leave much to do anything on your own. I do hope it is sorted out for you and you can get on with your life by yourself with Mags very quickly. So glad you have a great support worker to help you out - she is certainly great to have in your corner.

Many hugs and much love Maggie

Yes @Maggie i agree with the comments of @Zoe7 . Sounds like a good idea to lay low atm. Did you state you have a place to move into already organised? Take care

Hey @Zoe7 I seem to have missed the detail re your work - is the new school to your liking? Is it 4 days per week? Hello @MDT @Former-Member @Shaz51 @Maggie hope you’re all ok. Having seen an old acquaintance yesterday, I’ve been struggling with negative thoughts about myself (based on comparisons of better/more organised mothers). I am completely sick of my useless ruminative brain & the way it robs me of joy & productive activity. I want to be different but mindfulness strategies seem to have minimal impact. People without mental health issues seem to achieve more & offer their kids better lives. Even when I’m well my brain goes round in useless circles. Is the solution just acceptance? I’ve tried it but I still don’t get much relief or increase in productivity.

Acceptance is one strategy @Sam3 But comparing yourself to others is problemmatic also. You can ony live up to your own expectations of yourself and that needs to be enough. We often feel like others are doing better than us or have more than us but when we start to accept that what we have is enough then we can start to recognise that it is enough. You have so much to be grateful for Hon and living in the moment with your beautiful family around you, a home, a new job upcoming and financial security are all massive things in your life. Living for the present is a hard thing to do but with lots of practice it can be achieved - even with a MI. Not everyday will be okay but those days do pass also - they are ones we just need to get through though. Overthinking and ruminating on things for too long can certainly send us into that downward spiral - the trick is to let those thoughts happen but do not dwell on them for longer than you need to - that takes practice too though. Maybe writing down those thoughts would help as you are getting them out and often seeing them in front of us helps to move on from them. I find having those thoughts written gives me a little distance from them - it is not the same for everyone but something to consider and see if it helps.

You certainly have a lot going on and depression makes that harder but you are still raising a family and starting a new job soon and they are great achievements. Be a bit easier on yourself @Sam3 we are always harder on ourselves than others are and sometimes we just need to take a moment to accept that we are doing the best we can and that needs to be enough.