Am Not Coping

Wow @Zoe7 you write beautifully with such generosity & compassion - thank you very much. I will endeavour to extend the same to you & others on the forum. Here’s something funny: I’ve finally made it out to the park with the kids but not without drama. My 9yo locked himself in the treehouse in order to avoid going out (husband at work had the spare key!). Thankfully, he saw sense & is now kicking the ball at the park with his older brother (& even just hugged me). I’ve taken on too much & I feel like a child myself avoiding grown-up responsibilities. Life tasks do seem insurmountable & it’s actually my husband who does most of them. I certainly think too much & do too little in a big cycle of avoidance. Thanks for being accepting. Hope others in the group have peace of mind & accomplished their goals - got to officeworks/got washing done/etc

You have gone out to the park with the kids and that is an accomplishment for today @Sam3. Sometimes we dismiss the smaller things like getting to the park when in our reality they are big things - don't dismiss the little things you do as combined they add up. Some days just getting out of bed is an accomplishment. If there is one thing I have learnt over time it is that we have to take the positives, recognise them and allow ourselves to ackniwledge them - that way we build up a bank of 'good' in what can often be seen as a bad day. Focussing too much on the negatives can send us into that spiral into the darkness and that is one place that is hard to get out of. So my advice here would be to acknowledge that you got out with the kids despite there being opposition to begin with and hold on to that memory of your son hugging you because moments like that can be gold in an otherwise blah day.

You will find that many members visit this thread at different times but there is a core grup that you will 'see' here often - it is where I feel most comfortable and post most often - so you will never be alone on this thread - and we are more than happy to have you here Hon

I see you coming @Former-Member How were the results Hon? Been thinking about you all afternoon

Lol. I was a bit slow coming. 😬😂

Was too exhausted to type anything before. Sorry. Wanted to, but needed

a brief nap.

D needs to have another test. 🙃🤔😖

Not sure when she’ll do that.

It gets too much for her (and me).

She already has another appointment with a specialist in the new year, regarding something else which she’ll need an operation for. The first appointment involves a test which she’ll need some prn to get through. It was very painful last time. I had to look away. Glad she knows to take prn this time.

Last specialist said, it won’t hurt. But it was terrible.

I refuse to take her back there. He’s very expensive too.

Im usually in “too hard basket”. It was a different doctor, because most are on holidays.

She talked about IBS. Joys of life.

I just do my own research. And eat what I can.

Back soon. 💜💜

You got here eventually @Former-Member lol

I have IBS and take meds to help. It took just over 3 years of many test to get diagnosed and really affects everything I do. Learning to deal with it takes time and yes research too. There are a lot of things I can't eat but I love my vegetables and salads so that makes it a bit easier. Eating smaller meals more often also helps. That is harder to do when I am at work but easier to do when I am home.

It sucks that your daughter has to have more tests and I can understand why it gets too much for you and her Hon - mega sucks Glad she is getting a prn to help.

I will try to be here when you come back later Hon - watching the cricket so will be up for a while yet.

It would probably have to be a self-governed thing tonight @MDT because the usual Friday night moderators are not working due to the christmas-new year's break. There doesn't seem to be many around either so that makes it a little less frequented also.

Maybe if you begin then others will join in.

That’s ok. Enjoy the cricket @Zoe7 I am just going to try and relax. Maybe early night. Hmm!

Ive never been told that there are meds for IBS. A couple of months ago I started taking IBS support, I think it’s called. Ethical nutrients brand. It has different ingredients than the Inner Health probiotic. It helps a little, but still have to avoid lots of different foods.

Had salad for dinner.

A cuppa and toast with honey. Organic bread.

Hey! I notice you there @TAB

👋😺

I certainly notice the difference when I don't have the meds as well as the supplements I take @Former-Member The meds help with the inflammation and I am careful with what I eat most days. I don't eat much bread or meat - both of those affect me a lot. It has been trial and error over a few years though and there are some combinations of foods that affect me more.

It looks like we will lose the cricket tonight - the fielding has been shocking