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Am Not Coping

Am Not Coping

I am really not coping at the moment but this is entirely on ME!

This is a message for a few people on here @utopia @Former-Member @Faith-and-Hope @Former-Member

that I asked could be passed on but it seems that only part of it has been and I understand from the responses that have made it through my emails that I have caused untold distress for some people. I was not going to return because of what I felt I put people through but I especially wanted @utopia and @Former-Member to know that they were not wrong at the time and I was going through a real crisis period. You both held me together for longer than I could myself until the point where my own self-destructive thoughts overwhelmed me.

The entire message that I sent to SANE is below:

I have just viewed the multitude of emails and messages sent from forum members and members of the SANE team – as well as the text and voice message left on my phone.

I have not been able to communicate with anyone since the other night as I have been recovering from what ended up being an unsuccessful attempt to end the pain.

At the time I was in a very distressed state and I did want to stop the pain and all I seemed to achieve is to cause others pain and worry and that is the last thing I wanted to do – I just wanted to end mine and say goodbye to everyone beforehand so my future absence was explained. I should have realised that the message I posted would have concerned some people but I really was not in any state to think about the repercussions for others.

I am so sorry I caused so much distress to others – that is something I will have to hopefully try and live with.

I don’t believe after the concern and anxiety I caused to so many that I will ever be able to return to the forum.

Can someone from the SANE team please explain all this to all those involved and pass on my gratitude for their compassion, concerns and kind words throughout the time I have been part of the ‘forum family’.

Thank you and sorry again for the difficult position I put everyone in.

Zoe7

I do not want any responses from any of you. I just wanted to let you know exactly what has happened and let you know how truly sorry I am for hurting people I have come to think of as friends and family, and who I really care about.

Your support, advice and compassion are what make you all the wonderful people you are.

@utopia and @Former-Member I am so sorry that the trust you placed in me has now been broken because of my actions. I also felt that we had a stronger connection, especially over the last week, and you both helped me in ways I cannot even describe or explain. I was not pulling away from you two - just wanted to pull away from myself. I couldn't cope with my own feelings and no-one or nothing was actually going to be able to stop me at the time. It's now just another failure to add to my list of failures. I really don't know what else to say to you both but to reiterate my heartfelt 'sorry'.

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Will catch up with you later BB - hope you get some knitting done

Thank you for the chat @BlueBay

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Well done @Zoe7, super proud of you hun. I am so glad you got through all of that and are now resting.

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Now to tackle DBT tomorrow @Snowie but my pdoc appointment is at 1pm so I don't have a huge 2 hour wait - I will be home early and that will be good for me to be able to hopefully do a few things around the house - might even take myself off to the pool if I need some extra self-care

How are you doing today?

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After today @Zoe7 and what you were able to accomplish, you should be able to get through tomorrow! And all without Toby by your side too. Hopefully tomorrow goes as good as today did.

The pool sounds like such a good self care thing to do and having a membership there so you can go whenever you like sounds even better. Is Toby giving you big cuddles now?

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Yeah even the office lady was surprised I didn't have Toby with me - methinks it was more that she didn't get cuddles lol @Snowie My little buddy is laying on the floor atm - he has just had dinner so his usual routine is to play with his toys, lay down for a few minutes and then jump on the couch next to me - they are such creatures of habit. Is Izzy laying across your computer again tonight?

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@Zoe7, Izzy is laying across my legs atm but will have to move soon so I can finish cooking tea. I had a sleep again today and she had a nap with me. Has been cold and rainy here so a very much inside day.

If you go back to work could you take Toby with you or will he have to stay at home?

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Oh cute Izzy keeping mummy's legs warm @Snowie

No if/when I go back to work Toby will have to stay at home. I have been leaving him home more often when I go out and he is home when I have my long DBT/pdoc days on Wednesdays so he is getting used to me not being around as much. I looked into what was required for him to be an assistance dog and there is so much he would have to be trained to do that it would take away his little personality too much - plus I it would take too much time ...he isn't the most obedient dog at times lol

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Sounds like he would be ok at home without you then. He is probably not the most obedient dog because he is so spoilt. He probabaly has enough toys at home to keep him entertained during the day!!

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He has more toys than he can ever play with @Snowie - he is the most spoilt little puppy dog but I wouldn't have him any other way

He will be okay at home - he sleeps most of the day anyway - we just have to get him back in his routine in the morning and using his toilet tray in the laundry if needed.

Cat will be fine - she just does her own thing unless it is morning cuddle time or time to eat lol

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Thanks for thinking of me @Zoe7 @Faith-and-Hope

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Just got home. Feeling really traumatised after seeing specialist for further investigation following two abnormal Pap smears.

I find it traumatic due to CPTSD. 😳😫😢

Bumped into mother. Ugh!

Further trauma.

She said many have depression and anxiety and you need to get over it.

So devastating to hear that as I have previously explained that CPTSD is different and you can’t “get over it”, but find ways to cope with it.

I tried to mention this again. She just ignored me and changed the subject.

I will do my very very best to not bump into her or any family ever again.

Feeling devastated.

Sorry for my vent.

I know you’re all struggling.

Feel bad I’m whinging again. 😢😢😢😢

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