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Am Not Coping

Am Not Coping

I am really not coping at the moment but this is entirely on ME!

This is a message for a few people on here @utopia @Former-Member @Faith-and-Hope @Former-Member

that I asked could be passed on but it seems that only part of it has been and I understand from the responses that have made it through my emails that I have caused untold distress for some people. I was not going to return because of what I felt I put people through but I especially wanted @utopia and @Former-Member to know that they were not wrong at the time and I was going through a real crisis period. You both held me together for longer than I could myself until the point where my own self-destructive thoughts overwhelmed me.

The entire message that I sent to SANE is below:

I have just viewed the multitude of emails and messages sent from forum members and members of the SANE team – as well as the text and voice message left on my phone.

I have not been able to communicate with anyone since the other night as I have been recovering from what ended up being an unsuccessful attempt to end the pain.

At the time I was in a very distressed state and I did want to stop the pain and all I seemed to achieve is to cause others pain and worry and that is the last thing I wanted to do – I just wanted to end mine and say goodbye to everyone beforehand so my future absence was explained. I should have realised that the message I posted would have concerned some people but I really was not in any state to think about the repercussions for others.

I am so sorry I caused so much distress to others – that is something I will have to hopefully try and live with.

I don’t believe after the concern and anxiety I caused to so many that I will ever be able to return to the forum.

Can someone from the SANE team please explain all this to all those involved and pass on my gratitude for their compassion, concerns and kind words throughout the time I have been part of the ‘forum family’.

Thank you and sorry again for the difficult position I put everyone in.

Zoe7

I do not want any responses from any of you. I just wanted to let you know exactly what has happened and let you know how truly sorry I am for hurting people I have come to think of as friends and family, and who I really care about.

Your support, advice and compassion are what make you all the wonderful people you are.

@utopia and @Former-Member I am so sorry that the trust you placed in me has now been broken because of my actions. I also felt that we had a stronger connection, especially over the last week, and you both helped me in ways I cannot even describe or explain. I was not pulling away from you two - just wanted to pull away from myself. I couldn't cope with my own feelings and no-one or nothing was actually going to be able to stop me at the time. It's now just another failure to add to my list of failures. I really don't know what else to say to you both but to reiterate my heartfelt 'sorry'.

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Hope some light shines on you today - you might need these just in case 😎
Enjoy your walk @Faith-and-Hope
Thinking of you 💕

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😎 .... got 'em .... thanks @Zoe7 .....

Heading to the river from the coffee shop now .... guess who I just saw jogging past ??

At least I know where he is now ..... lol .... hopefully he's jogged all the norties out ....

❤️

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@Faith-and-Hope. Bugger that was a hard night and morning.
I thought it would be simple to simply unplug the tv. Apparently not.
and then having grumpy bum go on a sulk. Aaarrrggghhh!!!! I'm glad you could just walk away & have some you time.
Sending you love. ♥♥

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Hey @Faith-and-Hope - just a thought for 'next time' - where's the fuse box? May be a bit drastic to flick the switch - but would at least turn the tv off lol😉

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😂😂😂

Oh @Zoe7 .... that would also turn off the house alarm ...... and personal security is so high in WH's dysfunction that he tracks us with our phones, and cameras in and around the house .... and temporary cameras when we're away ..... flicking that switch would have brought a sky show raining down on me last night .... ❣

Yep .... living between a rock and a hard place ..... but by choice, in that I could have packed up the kids and left when all of this started emerging ..... we just ignore it, knowing that all that is actually his problem and doesn't affect our daily life beyond being bizarre, and invasive if you focus on it ..... but he can't be reasoned with about it so it's all or nothing for now.....

Someone with a qualification beyond any I might have needs to deal with this.

I'm very good at leaving things in the moment .- beyond the occasional "bl%dy" that is .... lol ....

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The river is really calm this morning .... just beautiful .....

I have spoken with S2 and he's up and about, bright eyed and bushy-tailed ..... told me he did set things off last night by not being available for a board game cos he was "out of it" on lack of sleep ...... intends to tame the tiger with a board game later today, if he can .... at least he is on board and helping to field our situation this morning .....

@Zoe7

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I so admire your strength and loyalty 😚 but can only imagine how hard it is to live in the moment when there is so much going on around you and for you! I am sitting here just shaking my head and feeling for you - for WH to have to know where everyone is all the time - oh dear!!!! That much control really is unacceptable - been there, suffered through it, didn't get out when I knew I should - have to deal with the consequences now! Thank goodness there were no kids involved - and to be honest the hate overtook the love - feeling for you and walking beside you 💕

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@Faith-and-Hope forgot to tag you - above post!
I know your situation is very different - but still really difficult 😔

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From what I've read I distressed a few of you last night. Never my plan and I feel really sh*t about that. Hope your all ok.

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I can understand you and not eating, I don't have zero appetite. Hope the nausea goes away or the doctor can give you something for it. No my head is a mess. Can't focous on anything. Just very lonely.
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