Am Not Coping

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@Faith-and-Hope How did it go this afternoon?

Hi @Zoe7 .... trawling through my inbox now that the household has settled .....

The psychologist agreed with me today that it sounds like the kids are at a point to cluster together in support of each other, and seek their own support and understandings about what is going on. He has someone in mind who does family counselling, and is very experienced with eating disorders.

That's not to say that the kids will want to go to see this person, but at any time in the year ahead, if they change their minds, they will have his number. They also have the option of going to our GP, or SIL's GP and asking to be referred for family counselling ....

Caught up with D1 for lunch today, and she asked what the psych had said .... she had actually asked me to run the kids' comments past him before my appointment, at which point I told her that was what I made the appointment .... she seemed appreciative of his advice, including that I was not too close to what is happening, and catastrophising, but he could understand how they would have that impression ....

Hopefully that has quelled the mutiny for now .... but I hope they do go and see this counsello. I think the experience would be good for them all.

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Good morning @Faith-and-Hope

It seems like it was quite a productive afternoon for you - at the very least - a step in the right direction.

Hopefully your kids will use the resources available to them and it will help take some of the load off your shoulders.

The alternative is: if they continue to mutiny then they can walk the plank - Captains orders lol

On a more serious not - How are you feeling about it all today?

@utopia How are you feeling today? Did you get some sleep?

Hi @Zoe7 ..... 😊💕

Well .... I have just woken up from 7 hours of sleep .... my most settled since we have been back I think .... 😊 ..... so that says something !! .... ✅

I think if D1 hadn't listened to me yesterday it would be much harder to feel as calm as I am now, but I think she can see the integrity in what I have just done in hand-balling them to others who have the authority and experience to discuss this with them. And integrity speaks very loudly in your defence .... ✅

I believe the psychologist is seeing the same in terms of the decisions I am making, and it is comforting to feel that sense of respect, when my feelings and choices here have not been respected wishing my wider family setting. .... ✅

D3 has barrelled into cleaning up her room ..... with impressive focus and determination .... this last 48 hours, however she worked in the middle of the night the night before, and ended up not sleeping at all last night .... but while S2's sleeping patterns have still been out of whack, there is little I can say to her .... she is armed and ready to be in-your-face-obstinate about it ..... that baby dragon is gettin' her wings on .... 😏✅

S2 had trouble sleeping the night before, and put himself back to bed for most of the day yesterday .... missing a date he had set up with D1 to help him sort through the his uni paperwork .....❎ .... he has sought her moral support to get it done, which I am proud of him for, because it means he is working at getting his own head back out of the sand ..... ✅

Just in time prob'ly .... cos WH came into the kitchen last night and announced that if S2 didn't get his act together very shortly, and missed the option of full-time at uni this year, he was going to speak to a mate and get a labourer's job set up for him. It's a good idea in principle, but it's the controlling nature of his intervention attempts that are still the worry .... it's S2's self-esteem and intrinsic motivation that have been most affected by WH's illness and the changed nature of their relationship as a result ... ❎

My S2 baby dragon needs his own wings on, and to get up and fly .... and to be able to spit fire when he needs to .... 😔

I haven't finished going through my inbox from last night, or what has come in this morning yet .... but I am going to go in search of Tawney to see how she is this morning ....

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Hi @Faith-and-Hope - 7 hours sleep - that's fantastic

It is really positive that both your feelings and choices are being acknowledged and respected. Having D1 and your psychologist on your side must be such a relief - you are not alone in your 'battle' and do have support around you!

Your baby dragons' wings will grow - you can balance out the controlling nature of WH with your continued support and love - not easy to be in the middle of but important that S2 has you and D1 for support and encouragement to help build up his self-esteem again. Hopefully he can do his uni paperwork - and that will get him a bit more motivated. This one is just going to take time!!

Hope you have caught up Tawney this morning to see how she is

I have an earlier appointment today so am going to head off and do a few things first. Hope you have a great morning - chat later

@utopia I slept for a little while. Was about 1.30 when I finally went to bed! No nightmares though

Had my daily appointment with GP earlier today. Asked if I could take my meds in the middle of the day as it seemed that changing them to the night kept me awake longer and really tired in the morning now. So we are going to try that for a few days and see how I go.

I'm doing ok today otherwise. It has been a really nice day and I got out for a while and walked around some shops. Had a rest when I got home because I was so tired but only really closed my eyes and didn't sleep.

Going to settle on the couch and watch the cricket tonight.