Never being in a relationship

@Former-Member ugh that's annoying that they never got back to you! fingers crossed the other one you registered for responds back soon though. i'm going to try keep an eye out for any other ADHD related groups in Melbourne as well, and let you know if I find new ones.

history and music are really great interest areas! have you ever just gone to a museum and started a conversation with a stranger about the art/history on display? (i haven't haha it's on my bucket list but was just wondering if that's something you've tried before or something you'd try in the future?)

what type of art/history are you interested in?

yeah dating apps are a bit iffy sometimes. i can be quite introverted myself and i've noticed that each time i've downloaded the apps, i've had a complete different experience - not sure if that's a good or bad thing though 😅

i'm heading off for tonight but i do want to say - although you haven't made the connection you wanted in the real world yet, i hope you know that the platonic connections made on this forum are real. and connecting with you over this has been lovely for me too, i really appreciate you sharing and opening up. i wish i could make that loneliness vanish. in the meantime, we're always here for you 💙

Hey @Former-Member , what have you been up to in keeping yourself busy?

Please know I'm thinking of you and hope you are okay.

@rav3n @tyme

They still haven't got back to me.

Yeah I have and I have tried it. Doesn't lead to anything so I haven't done it in a while.

My main areas of history are in classical history (roman and greek or particularly the Hellenistic period or the early imperial period in Rome).

My experience of dating apps are pretty much the same all the time. They are on life support with the occasional burst of life that is ephemeral and nothing else.

My days have been spent working or just coming home. I dont have much else to do or even the energy to do anything else. I am so sad, I am trying to find videos of others in my position but it doesn't fill me with hope. I am just going to die a lonely, sexless man.

Arggghhh @Former-Member , I don't know what to say.

A hug?

@tyme

Unfortunately there is not much to say, this is just the way the world is and has always been for me. Romance and love is not meant for me

Do you think grieving over the loss of what you don't currently have might stop you from experiencing the things you do have and could have? @Former-Member

I don't know how else to put it.

@tyme

I do agree with you, though I think it's grieving over things that I have put a lot of effort into and have seen no gain whatsoever. Whereas others can put in a minimal amount of effort and get much more out of life.

Honestly, I feel like I'm slipping. I want to cry and feel completely isolated on this issue. What resources or supports are there for this specific thing? I dont think I have much more to give in my life. Death feels like the only release.

So are you saying love, marriage and intimacy is all you want out of life and if you don't have it, then you don't want life @Former-Member ?

@tyme

No it is definitely not the only thing I want in life. There are other things too that I cant achieve. But the things you mentioned are definitely things I would like and have no access to currently.

I have put a lot of effort into a lot of different things and yet I have nothing to show for it.

"Show for it'... is this to show or prove to yourself or others?

Please don't take these questions harshly. I'm just a little confused. If you don't feel up to answering, that's absolutely okay. @Former-Member

I'm not sure if I'm on the same path, but when I was younger, I used to flick through social media and feel that my like was barren, useless and hopeless because I didn't have all the 'amazing' things that they had. It really pulled me down and I became so depressed by it. This stopped me living for many years because I knew I couldn't do what all those people on social media did. People I knew. People I went to school with. People I grew up with.

Years later, now, looking back, I'm so glad I don't have what they have. I feel that by not having what I once craved, I'm actually in a much better place.

I'm not sure if I'm on the same path @Former-Member . Just because you don't have one aspect of life, does it mean you have 'nothing'?