Never being in a relationship

hey @Former-Member sorry to hear today's been tough. the holiday seasons aren't always the best time for everyone. what sort of support would you like from us tonight?

@rav3n I dont know, I just thought I would say something to connect with someone

oh yeah i get that @Former-Member do you usually do anything for Christmas/new years/holiday break?

@rav3n

Christmas is always a bit rough, family is a bit broken this year due to Grandpa dying this year. So a few family members won't be here for Christmas. It is going to suck this year.

I worry that I dont have a lot of life left in me. I have said this before but I am at the point where I dont feel like I am cared about or I just feel invisible

Hi @Former-Member I've had this tab open on my computer since last week! Sorry it has taken me a while to respond. If you ever wanna grab my attention please feel free to tag me - odds are I may have forgotten, my ADHD makes it hard to keep track sometimes!! But it is never personal if I do forget to reply, just FYI!

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@Former-Member wrote:

I can emphasise with the feeling of never making it past a certain birthday. I never thought I'd make it to 30 but I did this year despite the fact that this year:

• My grandpa died two days after my birthday this year.
• My cousin died one month before my birthday.
• Two students I know took their lives this year.
• I got diagnosed with ASD/ADHD this year.

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Oh wow. I am so sorry to hear that there has been so much loss for you this year. That's really hard. I think it is in times of great loss that we often turn to our closest people, so if you haven't got anyone that feels like a 'safe haven' for you, it can make those feelings of isolation sting even more.

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@Former-Member wrote:

I worry that I dont have a lot of life left in me. I have said this before but I am at the point where I dont feel like I am cared about or I just feel invisible.

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I'm not sure if this counts for much, but... I care about you!! I think even just the fact that you remind me of me, of my own struggles, means there's a part of me drawn to you, a part with a great desire to help! And a desire to get to know you better too 😊

Maybe it's not quite the same, being a text-based format we're communicating in, with no face-to-face connection. But for whatever it's worth, I see you 💜

sorry to hear about your grandpa, sending you hugs 💙 @Former-Member i can see how this loss can make things more complicated with your family during the holidays. is this 'invisibility' something you felt from your family as well in the past?

you're not alone in not looking forward to Christmas time here, there's quite a few members who also feel similarly to you. i was just reading this thread today: Christmas survival tactics - SANE Forums

maybe you can create a list and share it too?

i'm so sorry you feel like no one cares but that's far from the truth because i care about you and the forums community cares about you!! 💙

@Jynx @rav3n

I do appreciate you both saying that and I wish it would help me more than it does. I just want an in person social life and to feel connected socially.

I have spent all my life dealing with problems on my own. I have never had any outlets to share my issues.

I want to cry

@Former-Member

i hear you, face-to-face connections are important too. how do you usually go about making these social connections? also when you say socially connect, are you open to friendships or just dating/romantic connections?

i'm really glad you made the single mens support group thread. i think that's definitely a big step in creating an outlet for yourself and for others too.

and it's okay to cry. sometimes it sucks and you gotta cry it out to feel better.