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long-term trauma & abuse, BPD, relationship breakdowns, lack of support/community, difficulty finding work

HelloiamaturtleCasual Contributor11 Sept 2024, 3:49 pm AEST

long-term trauma & abuse, BPD, relationship breakdowns, lack of support/community, difficulty finding work

Hi, this is my first time posting here

I wanted to join an in person bpd support group but the only one I could find was too far and meets monthly

There's a weekly one for general mental health issues on wednesday evenings that i've wanted to go to but it's been difficult getting the motivation to go, and not having a car makes it harder

I've been diagnosed with BPD for abit over 3 years after a few hospital admissions

I felt instantly rejected and hated by everyone in my life and no matter how much I said I didn't want to hurt people and I couldn't control my anger no one would hear anything I had to say and they all treated me like I was the problem and I lost alot of relationships that I had spent years building

I can't get ndis, I'm not in touch with any family, I don't have any support from anyone in my life because everyone's too busy living for themselves and I have so many complex health issues it's too difficult to get to social things, maintain friendships, or work

I have no hope and no reason to live and so many people have said they'll be by my side and left I don't want to make new friendships anymore but being on my own so much is so agonising

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magnolia84Senior Contributor04 Oct 2024, 4:07 pm AEST

Re: long-term trauma & abuse, BPD, relationship breakdowns, lack of support/community, difficulty finding work

@tyme Thanks so much for your message. You are always so kind.

I had a nice day. I had a psych appointment in the morning which was really good. Then I took my dog to the beach and we walked along and had a coffee. It was a gorgeous day.

What did you get up to?

I definitely am someone who puts others before myself. Often to my own detriment. And I usually have friends who need lots of things but then when I need something they are no where to be found.

In response to: Re: long-term trauma & abuse, BPD, relationship breakdowns, lack of support/community, difficulty finding work

tymeModerator04 Oct 2024, 4:13 pm AEST

Re: long-term trauma & abuse, BPD, relationship breakdowns, lack of support/community, difficulty finding work

@magnolia84 wrote:

I definitely am someone who puts others before myself. Often to my own detriment. And I usually have friends who need lots of things but then when I need something they are no where to be found.

Join the club! I think you are not alone in experiencing this! At least we know it happens...

I'm glad to hear you went out with the dog to the beach. I LOVE the beach, but the beach is so hard to get to from where I am in Melb. It's not worth the effort. When I lived in Sydney, my house was down the road from the beach so we could go all the time. I find the beach so soothing. I could sit there for hours just watching the waves.

Today, I went out myself to get an acai bowl for brekkie. Then I visited a few people before coming home to hope online here. I always love seeing all my forums family.

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