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Family separation

john74Senior Contributor01 Sept 2024, 8:20 pm AEST

Family separation

Hi it's been a tough fathers day for me second year without hearing from my adult kids after the nasty marriage breakdown and divorce involving domestic violence against me by my ex wife. I am very down because l care and think about my kids every day and l have a granddaughter that l haven't seen for 2 years also. I feel my ex wife is controlling the kids having turned them against.me .I worry about my granddaughter growing up without her grandfather because my daughter is too selfish to allow her to see me. I have never hurt anyone but l feel like l am.such a bad dad and l hate to think what crap my granddaughter is being told.It takes away meaning to my life. I doubt the situation will ever improve. Why why do people still hurt me???

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tymeModerator23 Feb 2025, 4:13 pm AEDT

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What do you like cooking @Leeanne1 ?

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Leeanne1Senior Contributor05 Mar 2025, 9:32 pm AEDT

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@john74

It can be very hard when family won't speak and can't see grandchildren I understand how that feels.i have the same problem and it really hurts some people are not nice

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Leeanne1Senior Contributor05 Mar 2025, 9:34 pm AEDT

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I'm finding it tough ATM can't same to do the things I love

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tymeModerator05 Mar 2025, 9:38 pm AEDT

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Hey hun @Leeanne1 , what's happening? Cooking and crocheting lately? @Leeanne1 Sorry to hear you can't seem to do the things you love at the moment.

@john74 - I haven't heard from you in a while.

How's life treating you both?

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Leeanne1Senior Contributor05 Mar 2025, 9:56 pm AEDT

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@tyme

I haven't done anything just every now and then I pick up my crocheting

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tymeModerator05 Mar 2025, 10:00 pm AEDT

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As hard as things are right now, what is something you are grateful for @Leeanne1 ?

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Leeanne1Senior Contributor05 Mar 2025, 10:04 pm AEDT

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@tyme

My best friend he has always been there for me

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tymeModerator05 Mar 2025, 10:06 pm AEDT

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That's so amazing. He sounds so understanding, even when others don't understand.

What else are you grateful for? @Leeanne1

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Leeanne1Senior Contributor05 Mar 2025, 10:09 pm AEDT

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@tyme

My 2 daughters they have been amazing

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tymeModerator05 Mar 2025, 10:16 pm AEDT

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Wow! That's so great to hear!

For me, I'm grateful for:

1) My nieces and nephews - they are the world to me even though they are annoying

2) A home to live in and a car to get a round

Can you think of what else you are grateful for @Leeanne1 ?

I'm mindful that sometimes we can get bogged down with all the things that are going 'wrong', but it can be much more helpful if we consider the things we are grateful for. Research tells us that it's very difficult for gratitude and depression to be present at the same time.

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