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Family separation

john74Senior Contributor01 Sept 2024, 8:20 pm AEST

Family separation

Hi it's been a tough fathers day for me second year without hearing from my adult kids after the nasty marriage breakdown and divorce involving domestic violence against me by my ex wife. I am very down because l care and think about my kids every day and l have a granddaughter that l haven't seen for 2 years also. I feel my ex wife is controlling the kids having turned them against.me .I worry about my granddaughter growing up without her grandfather because my daughter is too selfish to allow her to see me. I have never hurt anyone but l feel like l am.such a bad dad and l hate to think what crap my granddaughter is being told.It takes away meaning to my life. I doubt the situation will ever improve. Why why do people still hurt me???

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rav3nSenior Contributor17 Mar 2025, 7:27 pm AEDT

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i'm sorry to hear that @Leeanne1 do you mind me asking what made you feel this way? did something happen recently?

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Leeanne1Senior Contributor17 Mar 2025, 8:27 pm AEDT

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@rav3n

Having a bad time with my boyfriend and worried about my daughter

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rav3nSenior Contributor17 Mar 2025, 9:22 pm AEDT

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oh i see, that does sound upsetting @Leeanne1 relationships can be tricky, sorry you're dealing with two situations at once!

were you able to chat with your daughter and share your worries with her? are you and your boyfriend still talking to each other?

hope you're getting some self-care in too and giving yourself some love.

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Leeanne1Senior Contributor17 Mar 2025, 9:33 pm AEDT

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@rav3n

My boyfriend drinks and always has a go me .my daughter won't talk to me about anything 😞😞

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rav3nSenior Contributor17 Mar 2025, 10:08 pm AEDT

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@Leeanne1 so sorry to hear that, you definitely do NOT deserve that sort of mistreatment!! i hear how difficult it must be not having your daughter's support right now either. unfortunately i gotta hop off now but i'll chat more tomorrow.

but before i go i wanted to remind you that there are supports like Home | 1800RESPECT and Relationships Australia | Achieving positive and respectful relationships that you can speak to as well. take care 💙

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rav3nSenior Contributor18 Mar 2025, 3:40 pm AEDT

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hey @Leeanne1 how are you holding up today? hoping this week gets brighter for you.

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Leeanne1Senior Contributor18 Mar 2025, 4:11 pm AEDT

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@rav3n

Had to answer questions for my husbands superannuation. But didn't know his address

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rav3nSenior Contributor18 Mar 2025, 5:23 pm AEDT

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@Leeanne1 is there anyone who can help you find the address?

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Leeanne1Senior Contributor18 Mar 2025, 5:27 pm AEDT

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@rav3n

It's ok my son is dealing with it

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rav3nSenior Contributor18 Mar 2025, 5:30 pm AEDT

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amazing, glad he could help out! @Leeanne1 i know yesterday you mentioned that you were worried about your daughter - is your son able to support you with that?

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