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Recent Breakup

HopeDreamSenior Contributor

Recent Breakup

Hello,

I just wanted to share how things have been going for me lately. Recently, I broke up with my boyfriend, and we weren't together for very long, but we had a really meaningful connection that I valued a lot. He was someone that I could talk to about anything, and I felt really safe and secure around him. However, he and I had fundamentally different beliefs that inevitably caused conflict in our relationship - essentially, I got offended by a joke he made about women not being good drivers, which made me realise that he has more conservative/traditional beliefs, whereas I have more progressive/modern beliefs. When I told him how his "joke" offended me, he said it was "just a joke", and that was when I ended things with him. It wasn't just this - he is homophobic as well, and believes that women should be tidy and well-presented.

It makes me really sad because I thought he would be someone that I could spend the rest of my life with. And it feels like a big part of me is missing now, like the foundation on which I'm standing on is crumbling.

If anyone has any tips/advice/words of encouragement, I'd really appreciate it. This whole situation has gotten me down and all forms of support would help me a lot during this time.

- HopeDream

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HopeDreamSenior Contributor

Re: Recent Breakup

Hi @Glisten

I'm really sorry to hear this happened to you. I hope you are in a better position now, but if not, I send you my thoughts and pray for better days for you.

- HopeDream

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HopeDreamSenior Contributor

Re: Recent Breakup

Hi @jamesnewby

Thank you for your reply. I do believe he was just joking and didn't mean to offend me, however I find it difficult to deal with comments like that. I promised to myself before I got into a relationship that if someone didn't respect my boundaries, I would not put up with it. So that is why I broke up with him...it hurts, but I know it's for the best.

- HopeDream

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HopeDreamSenior Contributor

Re: Recent Breakup

Hello @jamesnewby, also I really admire you for just doing what you want without worrying about other people's opinions. I hope you are able to heal and find happiness.

- HopeDream

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jamesnewbyCasual Contributor

Re: Recent Breakup

Oh it's been such a rough 2 years, but I managed to dig myself out of the hole 3 months ago and now stepping outside the comfort zone.

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I sincerely hope you move past this issue and not let it get you down. I know your pain.

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tymeModerator

Re: Recent Breakup

Hey @jamesnewby ,

Thank you for sharing.

I just wanted to quickly let you know that unfortunately, we had to remove your YouTube channel because it may breach anonymity. We are sorry about that.

It sounds very interesting though. Feel free to tell us about it 🙂

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jamesnewbyCasual Contributor

Re: Recent Breakup

Ohhhh that's ok, I didn't even know.

Yeah, talking to a camera is actually pretty dang good. It listens and doesn't speak back. haha

I am just going to document things as I move forward, and try make something of it. Ive been a business guy most of life.... but I'm not the person I used to be so it's time to rebuild. I blur my face out though haha for now!! I put two vids there now, not many people looking hahaha [edited by moderator]

Great little site this is. So much more needs to be done to curb the mental health numbers.... one of my missions will be awareness. Anyway, I survived and it's time to do something again and prove to myself that I can get back what ive lost and so much more, even after many say it can't be done and I won't.... or, I'll never own a house again. Pfft At 50 years old, we shall see 🙂

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HopeDreamSenior Contributor

Re: Recent Breakup

Hi @jamesnewby

That's amazing you're putting yourself out there! 🙂 As someone who might be able to relate somewhat to your pain, I know how difficult that is. Personally, I hope I can do that as well once I'm in a better place mentally. And I hope your YouTube channel is doing well!

- HopeDream

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