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creative_writerSenior Contributor
Having a history of SA, romantic relationships make me queasy. The idea of the relationship being central to fulfilling another person’s sexual desire makes me uneasy and makes me feel like an object. There may be people out there who are on the same level as me, but I feel most guys will want more than I’m willing to give. I haven’t ever been in a romantic relationship so I have no idea what’s expected
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rav3nSenior Contributor
@creative_writer i really do feel you with this, i always tried to find people who truly understood me and felt like that person never existed. i'm so sorry you feel this way, share your pain. i think the truth is everyone is so unique and the need to feel understood is usually a result of being constantly invalidated in the past.
in my experience, waiting for someone to 'understand' is a bit of a waiting game - it is possible to find people who understand you but instead, its better to understand yourself and start validating and accepting ourselves so we don't rely on external validation for being 'enough'? what do you think?
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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tymeModerator
Do you go out to form relationships much @creative_writer ?
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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rav3nSenior Contributor
can i ask why no one gets in too far? is it something that they do that stops it from being more than superficial? @creative_writer
the avoidance part of brain is so annoying, can't tell if its doing us good or just figuring out an escape out of fear 😪
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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tymeModerator
Hey @creative_writer , rejection is real and it affects most of us.
I hope you can find a place to give yourself some space and tell yourself you will be okay.
We appreciate you for who you are.
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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RiverSealModerator
Hey @creative_writer, I think this is a common feeling and I have definitely experienced it myself.
I used to question whether it was worth it trying to connect with people, but I persisted and met some great people. I still have thoughts of rejection, and I think it's just a human experience when we feel vulnerable.
RiverSeal ❤️
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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