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creative_writerSenior Contributor
Having a history of SA, romantic relationships make me queasy. The idea of the relationship being central to fulfilling another person’s sexual desire makes me uneasy and makes me feel like an object. There may be people out there who are on the same level as me, but I feel most guys will want more than I’m willing to give. I haven’t ever been in a romantic relationship so I have no idea what’s expected
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JynxModerator
Hey @creative_writer haven't spoken in a bit, but just wanted you to know I've been reading along, and I'm sorry things feel so endless for you. Sometimes it's not about doing more or trying harder - cos we're already doing so much, and we can burn ourselves out on the process. Have hope darlin, change can be agonisingly slow, sometimes to the point it's unnoticible, but it doesn't mean things aren't shifting.
Sending some hugs your way, and maybe I'll catch you next week 🫂💜
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defaultusernameSenior Contributor
@creative_writer, I'm very impressed that you've nearly finished your degree, good on you! What's your major?
It sounds like you have a really good sense of self-awareness. And it also sounds like that you have a lot on your shoulders right now and need to have a good support network around you — so if you feel the need for a change with your psychologist, you need to do what is best for you.
Wishing you all the best with the rest of your degree and placement!
Looking forward to hearing from you again, take care 😊
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tymeModerator
You are so brave and you have been pushing through each and every time. I hear how tired you must be feeling @creative_writer .
Has today been better for you?
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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tymeModerator
Absolutely hear you on that one @creative_writer
How are your studies going? Is the placement done and dusted? Or do you have another placement to do later on?
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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tymeModerator
Agreed wholeheartedly! @creative_writer
Thanks for sharing!
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rav3nSenior Contributor
@creative_writer that quote is so accurate 🙃
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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