Maggie21Casual Contributor
Coping with adult child with BPD
Hi lam new to the forum.
I need support in how to navigate life with my 28yr old daughter who has been diagnosed with BPD.
She has a 6yr old daughter that l am very concerned for.
I live in rural area 1.5hrs away from where they live.
My daughter refuses to seek professional support but continuously tell me to as l am the cause of all her mental health issues!
She has only ever been in the paid workforce once undertaking casual work possibly for 50hrs max. She is on Centrelink single parent payments.
I have financially bailed her out continuously throughout her life. I have used all of my savings and super and now face having to return to the workforce to ensure l have the finances to support her.
She verbally attacks me continuously and then asks for support. The roller coaster communication is exhausting.
I feel l am often reactive in her bating me even though l attempt not to be.
I feel l cannot trust what she says to be true most frequently. She is always the victim and other people always do her wrong.
I often feel what is projected to me is just for my benefit...to goad me into a reaction.
I do have her daughter at my house regularly and right now l feel that l should attempt to do this on a more regular basis if l can get her agreement to allow that to occur. I don't have the financial resources to proceed at this stage to make a family law court action to ensure mthly or f/tly weekend access. I do feel giving my grand daughter some respite at regular times will have a positive impact on her.
I suppose l would just like to know how other parents cope with similar situations.
