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Childhood trauma

Matty19901Senior Contributor28 July 2024, 9:11 am AEST

Childhood trauma

Hi everyone so I decided to join this group and reach out to see if anyone has any advice. Long story short my dad is a toxic person and during my childhood he would support and encourage my 2 other brothers but he would discourage and put me down. This in turn has effected my adult life. I'm now 33 and I've only just discovered what I went through is a trauma. Just wondered if anyone has any advice?

It has messed with my confidence, my anger and just my life in general. I don't tell people anything bad in case it upsets them and I get walked all over.

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BunniekinsSenior Contributor28 July 2024, 4:09 pm AEST

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@Matty19901 Matty19901 my dad was severely toxic but at age 76 he died not before time. i have never looked back. I am here if you want to talk.

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Matty19901Senior Contributor28 July 2024, 4:35 pm AEST

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@Bunniekins yes I would like to talk can u message me?

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BunniekinsSenior Contributor28 July 2024, 4:56 pm AEST

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@Matty19901 hi Matty19901 am here

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BunniekinsSenior Contributor28 July 2024, 5:14 pm AEST

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@Matty19901 Matty19901 it has been 24 years since my father died and still when i occasionaly dream about him he has his back toward me and is running into a abyss all in black and white. he affected my dealings with males. for years i hated men but married a kind and good man and had three wonderful children.... stay far away from him and remember to look after yourself. my advise is to keep away from your dad. i had to move interstate do that if you can. it is sad you have my sympathy you really do. 💚

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Matty19901Senior Contributor28 July 2024, 9:04 pm AEST

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@Bunniekins I have blocked him on my phone and social media but I don't even know what else to do to start recovery

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BunniekinsSenior Contributor29 July 2024, 12:36 am AEST

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@Matty19901 i had my husband to help me. do you have anyone who can stand by you when things get tough emotionally for you? a good psychologist or counsellor would be a great start for you. btw it is great that you have blocked him. that is a good first step.

Just remember that your dad wont live forever and you will in the future once he dies have the peace you so long crave for.xxx

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