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Dear @ENKELI

How are you this morning ?

Would you like me to write up my will for you without the garble of my words in it ?

Perhaps you can print it out ?

A legal person wrote it up for me.

How about later today I send it anyway ?

My oldest son just flew into Perth. He is ( sorry everyone ) the most intelligent man I have met. But he doesn't see --- as he shouldn't --- how my mum stole him when he was 15 and kept up a disgust to me for years.

I need to just wait. He did say he really loves me.

We spoke of this emptiness inside himself he's struggled with for years and loneliness.

To recognise this. - I feel this widening of my own self opening up.

He filled it wrongly in the past but then he went to University. Today he has a very big hex bill he will be paying off for years.

Love.

@Oaktree @creative_writer @TAB

@Glisten @Former-Member

@creative_writer I finished my course end of Nov. At least now I have got certs, finished course( was applying a month b4 finished) and have an idea of where I stand in the job market.

Yeah cat is a dependent lol.

Am tapping into super to get by. I have an Inheritance coming from O/S been 2 years and legal fees so far, but could be a reasonable amount. I was more concerned with trying to get experience, then work only when it suited me. With paying for accom and travel ,would not have been making much anyway, plus would lose pension concessions if worked more than 12 weeks in a row . Ok am on jobseeker but had pension healthcare card last 7 years

..heavy @PeppyPatti

@creative_writer my aircon has been on quite a bit lately.

Hope you have a good day 😊

Ok, I need some help with something and I'm going to be blatantly honest. Talking about this makes me really anxious but here goes.

Growing up I developed these trauma habits, I used to have rubbish all over the floor and barricade my doorway with clothes so I could hear people come in and felt more protected.

Since December I haven't known when the next inspection date would be and 3 weeks ago I got the dates for this year's inspections, once a month.

I had developed good habits when it was every month, taking the bin out and putting things away, but with being hypervigilant for 8 weeks not knowing when I had no energy to or routine to do my regular tasks.

Let's throw in all the stress I've been under and trying so hard just to survive and cope...

So those old habits have emerged and it's all a bit overwhelming.

I have bags of rubbish around, mouldy bananas, dirty dishes in the sink and haven't put stuff away that it's still in baskets around my tiny unit.

I need some accountability, I have a week until my next inspection and I just need someone to keep me accountable...

Don't worry I'm asking someone in real life too but you guys understand these habits more than she does.

• Take all the rubbish out to get to the wardrobe
• Actually put my clothes away and not on the computer chair
• Put the bathers into space bag so I use that spot for storage
• Swap out the boring boxes for the cute cat and dog ones
• Change my sheets
• Clear the spot where the laundry used to go in the cupboard
• Clear my desk and make it look "uncluttered"
• Put the coffee grinder away and replace with the clear stackable things I got
• Empty the baskets into storage cubes
• Put the things that need to go to other people in the baskets
• Do the dishes

Today I will tackle the rubbish

When I get home from laundry I will take 1 bag out per tv show

I count 7 bags and 2 mixed with other stuff

Hey @avant-garde ,

Thank you for sharing. I totally get where you are coming from.

I don't have house inspections, but it's only when I HAVE to tidy up that I do... like when people are coming over. I guess that is the incentive to tidy up?

I can see what a mammoth task you have ahead of you. I can also see how you have broken down the task into smaller mini-tasks which, I guess, makes it more achieveable?

Good on you for setting goals in taking out 1 bag per TV show! What a good way to do it!

All the best, tyme

I'm not saying you are a germophobe or hoarder, but some of the strategies in the following thread may be helpful: Any diagnosed germophobes or hoarders on this forum?

Thanks @creative_writer . Take it easy. I know that feeling all too well of being light-headed.