Carer mental health and supporting a loved one with alzheimer's disease

Hi there @Dep1967 ,

Thank you for sharing. It sounds like your family has been through a lot recently.

I'm glad it sounds like your mum has the care she needs.

Does your sister have access to the NDIS? Or would she consider applying before the cut off age? I'm sorry to hear that at the age of 60, she is found 'alone' and having to cope.

I hope you find a way for her to develop the independence she needs.

Hi @Dep1967 @Harmonium

Don't think I have met you before.

Thanks for sharing your journey with us. I hope both of you are doing ok.

Hey there @Dep1967 ,

Being able to drive can definitely give an individual independence. I'm glad your sister is able to get out and about if she is able.

Do you have supports for yourself?

@Dep1967 ,

Do you have any boundaries in place before your son comes back to live with you? I wonder if having a discussion about what YOU expect will help?

Is it fair to say you are a little unsure of things in terms of your son returning?

At the end of 2022 I became a student at the local university college to brush up essay writing and presentation skills, scientific thinking and advanced mathematics. I completed this course with high distinction and enrolled in a medical science diploma in autumn 2023 studying part time just 2 subjects. Still visiting mum and running her errands. By June 2023 I had to withdraw because of mums progression in dementia and demands of my sister and aunt.
This year I found permanent residency in aged care then put mums house on the market involving months of clearing out and me thoroughly cleaning the empty house. Finally July 2024 that house caretaking role is over.
I wonder if I will study again or work again? Then I think my sister will have a meltdown or my son move back home. There are no grandchildren yet (daughter moved to Victoria with boyfriend)

Hearing you @Dep1967 .

I hear there is a lot to think about.

At the same time, you have a life to live. A life beyond your sister and son. Do you want to continue studying? Have you looked into study options? Nowadays, there are so many alternative ways of studying which may be helpful for you.

Hope things work out for you.