Psychotic episode and BPD

Welcome to the forums!

Thank you for sharing.

I'm sorry to hear how tough things have been for you. I recognise it is very difficult to be working, whilst there is someone so vulnerable at home. @Cindy8

Are there professional supports in place for her? It sounds like a lot to bear on your own.

• Hello there!
  We have various groups and experts on the phone that can help my daughter. The problem is that she doesn't see a problem! And she's refusing to see any professional.. Until she gets another psychotic episode and ambulance stuff sees it, my hands are tied up, unfortunately 😞

Actually, you are quite right there @Cindy8 . In recovery, unless the person wants change, it's hard for them to have the initiative to do anything different.

Have you sat down to have a chat to her and ask her "Do you like the way you are living at the moment? Is there anything you hope can be different?"

These are some crucial questions that are needed.

Also, have you thought about some boundaries you can talk through with her e.g. you can stay here for XYZ months but we will help you look for another place.

Boundaries can also be around her helping around the house, helping to pay bills etc.

Hello @tyme

Yes, we both have talked about boundaries. She doesn't have any money at the moment, so I am helping financially until she can sort something out. My boundary here was her pets. I can afford giving her a roof over her head, food on the table and the cost of household goods; but she has 5 cats (which are in her ex husband's care at the moment), 3 fish and a horse. I have helped so far, but sat down yesterday with her and told her I cannot do that on a regular basis.

Regarding the question about the way she is living... well... she is on a 'high' at this moment and loving life to the point that she doesn't realise there are some responsibilities and her outlook right now is very egocentric.

I know my daughter well, we are extremely close, and who I am dealing with at present is not my daughter! Nothing like her at all... so yeah.. It's good to see her happy rather than depressed; but it's the unrealistic type of happiness with no care about anything or anyone else in the world.

Sadly, I am expecting her to fall from that altitude sooner or later and that's when we get the opposite case... roller coaster effect... 😕

It's harder to speak 'sense' when she is on a 'high'. You may need to wait a little. Timing is key. But I'm glad to hear you have spoken to her about these boundaries. @Cindy8 . Sounds like you just need to keep going.

In the meantime, it's important that you look after yourself @Cindy8 .

Thank you @tyme

I have talked many times with her when she seems to come down from wherever she goes and she realises that she has to get some control of her life, but these moments are becoming very few and very short, and then she seems to forget what we talked about.

She had a few good days, but has reverted again to her 'high state' in a majestic way now.

I have had a couple of really hard weeks at work trying to learn a totally different job path for me which is really demanding. I get back from work exhausted, and except for a couple of times, she doesn't give a hoot and can't understand why I might get annoyed at her 'teenage behaviour'.

Talking about getting help or going to the doctor is out of the question! She believes all is good and dandy.. 😕