Destiny

hey again @Rockdog

totally valid that it makes you feel sad. when you love/loved someone so much but can no longer be with them, i'm guessing you have all these love hanging around that it's sad you can't place it where you want to (aka place it in a relationship w her).

the good news is that you can share it in other places instead (like in yourself, in your friends, in new partners, pets, etc)- when you're ready of course.

what's your new person like? what's different between her and your special person in terms of their qualities?

Thinking of you @Rockdog

Thank you @Oaktree

thinking of you as well 😊

Hi @rav3n ,

That is a really good question. The person I really want, I don’t even know that well. I guess that doesn’t make sense really. We just shared really intense moments where we got lost in each others eyes. It was more fantasy I guess. We just sort of got caught up and it was very powerful. I have only just met this new person, but there are some things I like and some I don’t. I mentioned to her the things I don’t so may have self sabotaged it anyway.

Hey @tyme ,

hope you are well. I was hoping we could chat soon. I am really confused about my destiny and why it isn’t going where it is meant to. But working on myself is starting to pay off 😊

hey @Rockdog those intense moments, do you feel it was like pure chemistry? like physical attraction or just some sort of magnetic pull towards her?

not sure if you've heard of limerence, but i wonder if you're experiencing that with your special person? i've experienced limerence a couple of times so i know how powerful those feelings can be.

ahh yep, the self-sabotaging is rough (and i too am guilty of doing this in the past). i reckon, life's too short to waste yours and other people's time, hey? seems like the new one isn't necessarily who you're looking for. what qualities do you want in your ideal partner?

Hi @rav3n ,

I haven’t heard of Limerance, I will check it out. My special person was chemistry and magnetic pull I can’t describe. It started with phyaical attraction but when chemistry was added it changed it all. I think there is a reason I met this new person which is to expand and grow, and to stretch outside my comfort zone. I guess I just don’t think my special person will ever come back. She is what I want, kind, funny, caring and sweet.

Hey @Rockdog ,

I've been thinking about you a lot and thinking how you've been going.

Glad to hear that working on yourself is paying off.

Things will work out my friend..

What have you been up to?

Hey @tyme ,

I am so happy you messaged. I am having some real struggles. I feel it is a step on my journey but it is hard. I went out on a date with someone, and we hit it off. I knew she wasn’t my special person so also felt a bit weird. I text her and said I wasn’t sure because a couple of things bothered me. I smoothed it over and she stayed a night in my unit. Things did not go well on my part, as I was spending time with a girl and it had been a very long time since my marriage, and she wasn’t my person. Anyway now she isn’t sure either and I feel really bad. And my person may never be with me so a bit flat. Hope you are well and Ruby is being a good girl. This was all very traumatic and I feel like a failure, and she made me feel worse, and I don’t have my destiny.

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@Rockdog

Sorry this has all made you feel worse. You know I read about what limerance is and I think I have felt that for people in the past. I have idolised people and thought a lot about them. It’s really hard to get past. Hugs to you!