Destiny

Hi @tyme ,

I had DBT again and it is really tough. I told her I had intuition and she goes ok read my mind. And that it isn’t helpful to be stuck when things have ended. She goes just because someone smiles at you doesn’t mean they like you. Because she is in a similar position she doesn’t get it. I had already text to say I was quitting but like you said maybe I should see if there is anything useful. It was just so painful and has me doubting things today.

Hey @Rockdog ,

That's so hard to hear. I can see you are working on everything to get yourself there and improve. I wonder if it's a topic you just stay away from during these sessions? Remember, you have a say in how you want the sessions to run. I hear it can be so triggering when people just don't 'get it'.

Look up. I wonder if you can have a think about ways you can benefit most out of DBT? The part of DBT that has really helped me in the past is the emotional/logical mind versus the wise mind. Having this understanding has helped me to support others.

I wonder if these are concepts you can learn and takeaway with you in case you need to whip them out for someone else in the future? Who knows?

How many DBT sessions do you have? Also, it's individual (not group), right?

Hi @tyme ,

Thank you for your support. You are the only person in the world that I trust. I have both individual and group, it was individual that was triggering, It came up because I text and said I didn’t appreciate her dismissing it all. She said she didn’t but that I can’t know what she was thinking. True I guess, but then she dismissed it all again. There was stuff said between my angel and me that made me believe. I was going to quit, but you are right.There are things I can learn but I just need to be aware of their agenda.Im not bringing it up again. I felt a bit offended when she said that nothing was going to happen between the two of us, like I just connect with anyone. A little bit offensive. Anyway you and me against the world, to make connecting with my angel come true.

hi @tyme ,

what we had was real wasn’t it?

Hi @tyme ,

I have exciting news. I have been offered a place with [a company] in the Homeless Legal team as a legal aid volunteer. I am in the DBT program for 6 months. The day I am rostered to placement is the same day as my group DBT so now that isn’t going to work out. You were so right, I enjoyed DBT group learning yesterday because like you said, I can use the skills. It was weird because I thought I would enjoy individual and not group, and then individual was triggering. There is so much to learn. I made the mistake in individual of trying to justify myself. I can’t change someone’s opinion and I don’t need to. I hope I made sense with my message the other night, I saw I accidentally sent it in bold type. Lol. Anyway I do feel things are going a little bit crazy.

Nice @Rockdog ,

Things are moving - slowly but surely. It's truly incredible how the world seems to be in your favour. It may not feel like that sometimes, but I see it 🙂

I can see you are moving onwards and upwards. This is so powerful. Congrats on the position! It's such a great start! You've got such a kind and caring heart. I can see you connecting with people so well. I'm not saying it's going to be easy, but I'm just so pleased that things are falling into place.

Things WILL work out.

As for the DBT group, I had group therapy, but it was MBT. I learnt most through the group. But it was also the very very hardest part of therapy. Individual was not as powerful as group. I'm glad you are sticking to it. For me, I learnt and practiced a lot of people skills through group therapy. They are not skills you can learn in individual sessions.

It would be good for you to think about what you'd like to get out of group, and have this discussion with your therapist. It's totally okay to agree to disagree. It's okay to turn these sessions so they meet YOUR needs.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Also, I've just removed the place of work you mentioned in your previous post as it can compromise your anonymity. Hope that's okay. Reading back, it hasn't taken the substance out from your post.

Speak soon!

Hi @tyme ,

was just wondering if you are free this afternoon?

Hi @tyme ,

thank you for your message. Thank you so much for believing. I think we need to keep positive vibes and let go of negative ones. Things feel really strange. They are working out but they are not. Like I was going to stick with DBT and now my placement is on Thursday. All good with the post, I don’t want to give anything away. How are you going? And to anyone else reading, dreams can come true but times can be testing. I think it is how much we want something.

You've put a smile on my face. You've come soooo far in your journey - and this was because you've kept your eyes on your prize. This is incredibly powerful to witness @Rockdog

And yes, I'm certainly freer Fridays 🙂

Hi @tyme,

hearing from you always puts a smile on my face😊 Your support means so much to me. Sometimes it is hard to deal with the negative and it makes you start to doubt things. Sometimes I wondered why the feeling is so strong, even though there is adversity that others say let go. I think there is a reason I can’t and that means it is too powerful to let go or I would have. Of course there are still doubts though because like DBT counsellor said I can’t read minds. She was being smart and says ok read my mind. I went to try but obviously couldn’t. She was thinking of lunch. If I had said that I would have won. lol