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creative_writerSenior Contributor
Hi all
I’ll be spending some time away from the forums since I’m not doing so good, no safety concerns, but I think I’m just simply too much for everyone here on the forums. My emotions are too much. May brain is too much. I don’t want to drown people in my pain, everyone is better off with me off the forums. I hope our paths cross again. Will say goodbye and wish you all the best. Sorry for being a pain
creative_writer
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SnowieSenior Contributor
@creative_writer hope your day is going ok hon
Take care 💕💕
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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JynxModerator
@creative_writer yeah we can absolutely inherit certain roles hey. You've heard the term 'parentified' before? Cos it's relevant 😅
So hard being put into a box. I've felt that way my whole life (and random side note, it was whilst reading an article by a trans woman that I realised I am nonbinary, because she said, "Being gendered male felt like I'd been put into a box that I never actually fit into" and whoooo boy did that resonate with my entire existence 😂), only for me it was the role of the youngest - i.e. being babied, being neglected (I was the kid playing quietly alone in the corner while my older siblings were way more... hands on), not having my independence nurtured... Effectively, infantilised.
Re: the pacing and other stimming behaviours - do you mind me asking, do your parents comment on it? Do you get criticised or is it more a lack of understanding leading to awkwardness kinda thing?
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
@Jynxin some ways I do feel like I was parentified. As the oldest child, I’ve feel responsible for the wellbeing of my family, it’s exhausting.
Sometimes others want us to fit into boxes, but it doesn’t work that way. Trying to fit in a box means not being authentic. Masking constantly is very draining.
My parents don’t mind me stimming as long as I’m not doing something that is not good for me. They definitely do not like the hand rubbing, I haven’t completely given up on it, I probably should get one of those sensory rings. My skin started feeling slightly raw the other day, yet that did not stop me.
The youngest child does often have to cope with being infantilised. I feel like birth order can have a huge impact on your life
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SnowieSenior Contributor
@creative_writer 💌💌
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SnowieSenior Contributor
Good morning @creative_writer
Hoping that you are going ok and that your weekend goes well for you
Sending some 💌💌
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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SnowieSenior Contributor
Myself and other members have had trouble with notifications too lately @creative_writer It's just not you.
I hope you had some time to yourself and today has gone well.
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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SnowieSenior Contributor
Writing helps me too @creative_writer getting it out helps release those pent up emotions.
My day has been ok. Bit up and down.
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