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creative_writerSenior Contributor
Hi all
I’ll be spending some time away from the forums since I’m not doing so good, no safety concerns, but I think I’m just simply too much for everyone here on the forums. My emotions are too much. May brain is too much. I don’t want to drown people in my pain, everyone is better off with me off the forums. I hope our paths cross again. Will say goodbye and wish you all the best. Sorry for being a pain
creative_writer
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SnowieSenior Contributor
@creative_writer Anyone who is capable can become a parent. Families come in all different shapes and sizes. Single parents, married parents, mixed families, step parents, it doesn't matter.
Children thrive in a loving and nurturing environment. Anyone can give this.
You are more than capable of providing this. You are a strong, loving and extremely capable person hon.
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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SnowieSenior Contributor
@creative_writer you are not defined by whether you have a partner or not. There are people that live amazing lives and are single. There is nothing that you can't achieve in your life, whether you are married or not.
It's not as if you are blocking the option of marriage, you are just looking at different alternates. Nothing wrong with that.
I can understand how hard it is to be intimate after SA. It takes a lot of time, trust and probably a lot of other things too.
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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SnowieSenior Contributor
All I can say is that you need to do what is right for you. If you feel more comfortable by yourself @creative_writer than so be it.
You have to do what makes you happy.
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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JynxModerator
@creative_writer howdy! Hope it's okay I poke my nose in, just wanted to talk a bit about the fact that not everyone sees physical intimacy as a necessary part of relationships! I'm demisexual and grey asexual and have two long-term platonic life partners. We don't share physical intimacy but we do have emotional intimacy, and we're pretty content. I know the ace community isn't huge, but there's definitely folks out there who don't see 'no sex' as a deal-breaker 😉
Hope it's okay I've jumped in, and if I've misread or missed context and this is actually irrelevant, then that's my bad!
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SnowieSenior Contributor
I agree with @Jynx
There are so many different types of relationships @creative_writer
It is not just black and white.
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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SnowieSenior Contributor
@creative_writer no point trying to be something that you are not.
You do what is right for you and what you are comfortable with.
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