Just decided to prioritise myself..

I’ve just decided tonight to break up with my partner. He changes within seconds and has a problem with alcohol. He frequently calls me terrible names, and I have been in “this place” with him over and over since we met over two years ago. I never even knew what gaslighting was, and I’m a very strong and smart person, but now I know two things.. 1. That everyone has the right not to have to be strong 24/7 because of what’s happening. 2. What’s happening is wrong. And actually 3. Just because he has good points and has had an abusive childhood, doesn’t mean I have to be with him and put up with things.

I joined this forum tonight because it’s late and I couldn’t go to sleep without “using my voice” in a positive way before resting. I feel like I’ve got a huge unknown mountain to climb now (tomorrow, etc) as whenever I mention breaking up he becomes abusive, but I have made a plan for tomorrow which involves gathering some support. Any brief words of support are welcome..