embarrassed and hurt

Hey @sol_49 ,

I'm so sorry to hear about this. I hear the pain through your posts. It takes a lot for a person to let someone into their lives so that they know so many intimate details.

I hear it is so hard for you right now. At the same time, you are not alone. Many others have found themselves in a similar place.

It is not because you have done anything wrong. The internet can be such a trap.

We are sitting with you.

Hugs.

Thanks @tyme

I appreciate your kindness.

And I think you are right,

The internet can be a trap.

Maybe this time I will remember how badly he treated me.

I guess I can only take it one moment at a time.

Thanks again.

Actually, when I saw your username pop up, I was kinda excited because I haven't seen you in a long time @sol_49 .

I was really glad to hear from you.

For me, I don't have access to any social media accounts so that I don't fall into the trap. Social media platforms are made to entice you, eat up your time, give you a dopamine hit every time you get a notification... humans are made to want connection. Together? Bad things can happen.

Please just be careful and practice self-care. Do what you think is right for you. Allow yourself to heal and tell yourself you haven't done anything wrong, but there are things that can be learnt, moving forward.

Hugs

Hi @sol_49

How are ye doing today. The battle between the head and the heart can be cruel at times. Don't let a nob like that internet guy get you down and you have nothing to be embarrassed about. Lets just say you might be a little bit wiser due to this circumstance. If we were to believe what we saw on social media then everyone is leading the most fabulous of lives, NOT. It's all a fantasy world, with people always showing the best possible side of themselves. Your problem was that you showed yourself as a really decent person who has feelings, a genuine human being and alas you encountered a complete and utter shallow tw#t. So forget about him, he is not worth even thinking about and continue on being the lovely person you are...................Asgard

Hi @sol_49

I understand how this experience has impacted you, including feelings of embarrassment. However, it seems that the person you have been communicating with has some significant character flaws and as such, you need to consider if he is adding value to your life.

Additionally, and acknowledging your mental health challenges, your experience of on-line deception provides you with an opportunity to reset, and to investigate alternative avenues for meeting people. This includes face-to-face interactions with people that share your values of integrity and authenticity.

Apart from this suggestion, please be kind to yourself and keep in mind that your aspiration for a relationship which is based on love, mutual respect, and honesty, is shared by most people. Equally important, is to recognise that it may take a few (or sometimes many) goes before you find the 'right person'.

Lastly, I will leave you with two quotes that have helped me to overcome some personal disappointments: 'forewarned is forearmed' and 'onwards and upwards'. I hope these simple messages give room for pause, and are helpful.

Morning @sol_49

Have been in a similar situation to you aswell a while ago, so I know its bloody hard not to think of them. Of course the brain being what it is, ye only ever think of the nice times, rose tinted glasses or what. Anyways you deserve better, waaay better and you will find it too.

Thinking of you.......Asgard

Hey @sol_49 ,

Hugs back to you!

It's always great to hear your responses because you are so open and ready to make changes. When reading your posts, you can really see that you have an open mind to whatever is happening and I think this is what may get you over the line, even when things are most difficult.

Yeah, social media is a no no to me. It's not worth the tears. I've got better things to do with my life than live on my devices. After reading how tech giants earn money for every minute people spend browsing their content, it makes me feel erk and so many are falling into the trap without even knowing...

For me, I feel if things are meant to be, then they are meant to me. If people want to be around me, then good on them. If not, good riddance. Maybe I'm conservative and old fashioned???? I don't know.