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I do this thing where I'm sad in the day, even if it's sunny out and I know I should soak up the sun, but I'm too sad to go out and too heavy because of pain...like how I don't have friends asking me to hang out etc. makes me too sad so I lack motivation to go out alone and tend to go out way later in the day as it becomes cold and dark, then I get a slight cold, hate myself for doing this, tell myself to never do it again, and then I do do it again and situation repeats ...I just told my mum how I feel about this and she made me feel worse by saying "yeah well you were on your phone the whole day yesterday"...I explained to her how I feel so I didn't appreciate that....anyway not so worried about my mum don't need help with that but more upset at my lack of enthusiasm and ability to just get out in the sun. Thanks..
Hi @Anny101 I don't know if this has already been said but it sounds like you've been feeling a bit stuck. After a big cry last night I realised it might be the same kind of feeling - stuck or needing something to release you forward into some more activity or range of feelings that might help you complete the stress cycle and regulate your nervous system to make room for more activity. My chest area feels completely different today, like a comfortable heaviness that's keeping it from skipping and sputtering all over the place. I've been having heart palpitations and feeling so physically out of control in that area of my body. So maybe some EFT tapping (emotional freedom technique) or something similar to give your body the opportunity to find the solution. Because you already know the sunshine and the outings have that protective quality but if you're unable to even get to that yet maybe just a bit of knocking on the door of your paralysis will glean some insight.
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Anny101Contributor
Re: Depressed to go out in the sun
Wow amazing! Stress cycle?! What a fantastic concept never heard of it makes so much sense!! Please elaborate? So that's why I'm frozen sometimes? Because the stress cycle hasn't done it's course of leaving the body?
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GlistenSenior Contributor
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@Anny101@BossBaby
I Googled Stress Cycle. Found this OHS information. 🧠❤️🩹 I learn something everyday from this forum.
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