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jaiCasual Contributor
hi im new here and i think i have BPD things have gotten worse last few years to point were i no something not right and so do the ones close to me to after reading up on BPD there was not a sign or a symptom i don’t feel or relate to was quite scary as i have been so lost and confused the last few years to why i am the way i am would like to hear from others that have BPD as i am going through the process now for diagnosis
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Ali585Senior Contributor
I have mixed feelings about the label BPD.
So often it seems to come with stigma (the worst from health professionals who are meant to be helping - especially emergency departments!)
But overall I really am glad because it meant that i was directed towards treatment that actually suited me and was helpful - rather than just being overmedicated.
if you do get the diagnosis - i would encourage you to try and find someone who specialises in BPD treatment. it was hard for me to find someone. but it was the best thing that ever happened
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StarshineSenior Contributor
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WecanliveourwayNew Contributor
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ShimmerSenior Contributor
Hello @Wecanliveourway,
Welcome to the Forums! I am Shimmer, one of the moderators here 
You raise some really interesting ideas about the impact of a diagnosis, in that it can be both a burden and useful in enriching self-understanding. In this Topic Tuesday we discussed how diagnosis can be a double-edged sword, you might be interested to have a look!
I love what you said about developing kindness towards yourself, I believe self-compassion is so important!
Feel free to share more of your story, perhaps by starting a "New Discussion" if you'd like, as well as chatting in this thread.
I hope you find the Forums to be a wonderful supportive community!
Take care,
Shimmer
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