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jaiCasual Contributor
hi im new here and i think i have BPD things have gotten worse last few years to point were i no something not right and so do the ones close to me to after reading up on BPD there was not a sign or a symptom i don’t feel or relate to was quite scary as i have been so lost and confused the last few years to why i am the way i am would like to hear from others that have BPD as i am going through the process now for diagnosis
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espritSenior Contributor
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Fancy_PantsSenior Contributor
Hi @jai
welcome to the forums!
i am glad to hear that you are going through the process for diagnosis as I am assuming that this also means that you will be directed toward help at the end of the process?
there are many people on here who share that diagnosis (assuming it is accurate) I wonder if anyone has any reflections on what it was / is like for them during the initial stages? or advice about how to manage possible obstacles? @tinnx @BlueBay @jist0508 @BillambaI also found this thread about how to tell loved ones and dealing with BPD here
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BlueBaySenior Contributor
Hi @jai
I was diagnosed with BPD along with depression, anxiety, ptsd and childhood sexual abuse almost 7 yrs ago, when I was in my forties.
To me i had never heard of BPD, so I googled it and boy was I scared.
Like @Former-Member I don't like the label and sometimes I tell people it's an "emotional regulation disorder" because I can't regulate my emotions.
DBT (dialetical behaviour therapy) is a type of therapy that helps people with BPD to learn distractions skills, distress tolerance among other things. It is a long term commitment therapy. I did do this for one year, it was quite costly and i had to travel an hour each week. In the end i did learn some new things but my therapist stopped working there so i had no one else to do the therapy. Hence now I am still struggling. It's not easy to put into practice what you learn from a book and a therapist.
I wish you all the best, keep chatting on here. It's a great forum.:)
@Former-Member (Hugs and love to you my friend) I just read your post and i felt really sad for you. 
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jaiCasual Contributor
Thank you all for the welcoming as some of you said about labelling can be frighting or don’t like to label things for me having a label was relief but at same time bit overwhelming as I knew I had to make a lot life changes for things to get better I was diagnosed with depression when I was 18 I had attempted suicide and also self-harmed for many years I manage to control my depression and even at one stage was off medication which was massive thing for me but after being off for almost 2 years I had another relationship break down which was 10 years long I had 2 kids to her and I hit rock bottom pretty hard. To lead up to break I was spiralling slowly with my behaviour I was drinking a lot to escape way I felt and lost who I was and didn’t know who I was any more and was struggling with the way I was. I managed to pull myself out my deep depression for my kids sake there only reason I would refuse to suicide but last 18 months things have changed I have changed and those thoughts creep back up and attempts have been made and scared me as I was losing control after doing research about things like bi-polar I could relate to mood swings but not the mania parts or the long stints of lasting good parts and bad, recent after coming across BPD I finally felt I had explanation for why I constantly did the things I did or how my moods would switch so quick as its only been the last 4 years that things have changed and last 2 years were things have gotten worse were people around me new something not right and I put off until I ruin yet another good relationship with my action im hoping to get some closer and help to make me be able to get myself back and get things back to were they should be
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