To Hell and Back

Oh my goodness @LostAngel that is so devastating! I'm really, truly so sorry for the loss, grief, pain, and distress that this kind of situation would cause. I think it's okay to feel the need to hide yourself away for a while, and to just take it very slowly/one step at a time. Do you have legal representation/support yet? You could contact Legal Aid for some advice on your best bet for navigating this - it would be deeply unfair to end up with a black mark on your record for someone else's horrific and predatory crime. I know it might be a pretty intense thing for you right now but I'd still recommend contacting them as soon as possible to ensure you're doing everything you can to prove your innocence. How truly cruel this person is to have done this to you. No one deserves to be strung along or to have their name dragged through the mud like that.

Do you have some decent mental health supports in place to help you navigate this MH crash that has (very understandably) hit you?

Sending some very big hugs, that is so rough hun 💜🫂

@LostAngel sorry to hear that. This can be really useful to someone. Whatever gone is gone. Give up on those now. Don't worry thinking about that. Really be careful with the online scammers. How are you now?

thank you @Jynx I really appreciate it , @Tilz also Thank you ,now this is gonna sound totally elogical but for now I one havnt confronted the Scammer Directly ,but also 2 havnt quite blocked them yet ,I know its elogical ,I guess my reasoning is to gather evidence but I have been a little shall we say reckless in the process cause my brain and emotions is allover the place ,believe me Im trying to find a way to end things on my terms ,Ive been angry ,numb,scared,feeling vengefull ,heartbroken ,emotional but as yet I strangely have experienced every emotion except I haant cried yet ,cant seem to cry ,but do feel depressed alot ,then sort of upbeat then down again ,The steps I have taken is my bank is secure as such ,I have reported to cyber crime website ,Ive notified ID Care which is a place that deals with identity theft ,Ive spoken to lifeline ,but have found 1800 respect the most helpfull so far as its retriggoring some things from the previos in person relationship that was abusive ,I was on the phone today with 1800 respect and kind of self blaming ,questioning ect ,you see theres a deep seated lonliness but unfortuenetly my attachments to trauma inducing relationships I dont fully understand why this keeps happening to me ,choosing the wrong people to be with first in person now online ,Im kind of in emotional limbo and honestly dont want to leave the house untill sometime next week ,I am trying to distance from scammer but its gonna take a little longer to fully block which probly isnt helping butt how do I even get a form of closure in this sort of situation ,Im getting there but its slow going to fully make up my mind to end it and put a full stop to it ,I know I have to though for my own sake to heal

@LostAngel really appreciate it. Slow going will help you. I'm sure you will heal soon. We are holding hands with you. ❤️

@LostAngel

Wow. Thats insane. I can only imagine what you're going through. I'm not sure if you have but it might be worth while reaching out to scam watch. They are a government organisation to help stop scams in Australia

This is their website:

https://www.scamwatch.gov.au/

And this is the page on what to do if you have been scammed:

https://www.scamwatch.gov.au/protect-yourself/what-to-do-if-youve-been-scammed

I believe you can also contact them and they can help you with next steps.

I really hope this helps!

@LilMapleLeaf @Tilz @Jynx Im feeling angry today rather than down ,although yesterday was a good day I got out into the fresh air and went for a walk ,but todays another story ,getting angry and isolating again ,I dont particully want to talk today so phone calls will go unanswered,I have had food but am preety much hold up at home again,Just angry so angry I made up my mind I was going to confront scammer but then thought best not to ,instead still trying to gather evidence,one positive though I now have finally regained access to my own money , but now Im thinking I may have to somehow buy a new phone as the bank wont allow me to have internet banking untill they know the device is clean ,no malware,which I understand so maybe I should just get a whole nother phone to again start fresh and basically reset things like phone number ect ,email passwords are reset ,license not sure how to fix that being breached, but hey at least access to my funds again which of course means buying food ,petrol and essentials ,as for the scammer well Im kind of playing private eye on my own researching ,but I still havnt managed to fully stop talking to him yet but Because I know this person if I can even call them a person cause who does this sort of thing to people? I am taking my control of any converstions ,he doesnt know I know ,but I am getting bored with the sharade im doing to gather extra evidence,mainly Im trying to find out what was his end goal,his intentions was it purely for money? was it sickly for the thrill of control over women? what was is goal ? ,now I shouldnt be talking to him in any compacity really but its taking time for my heart to let go ,even though logically his romancing was all a fantasy fasade ,I mean I am stuck between ,confronting for full ansewrs if i even get answers or blocking and never knowing this cruel persons intentions ,so still in limbo but Im taking some sense of control over conversations cause Im aware now ,just waiting for my heart to catch up so I can break things off completely ,Ive given myself a time frame of when to break it off ,completely

@LostAngel I think it's normal for your emotions to be a bit of a rollercoaster at the moment!

I'm glad you've been taking the steps needed to sort through this mess, and that you've also set yourself a time limit. I think it is understandable for it to be difficult to cut ties, because our emotional brains and our logic brains don't always see things the same way! So long as you're doing what you can to keep yourself safe, and not being too hard on yourself either 💜

@LostAngel i know how hard its lostangel. But you know that exactly what his intension was. He will never do like this if he really cares you. Your heart will accept that fact soon. So till that hold strong. we are with you. Btw try to take a phone and make your passwords and privacy secure. Make sure everything in perfect hand. You are an angel who are not lost but strongly fighting for everything.

thank you @Jynx and @Tilz I appreciate your support so much , as it stands now Im doing my best and Ive decided breaking this situation is very very close

Hello @Tilz and @Jynx and @LilMapleLeaf might have forgot someone sorry if I have but just writting again cause I need to ,Well it looks like things may be closing off with this Fake Relationship naturally that is Ive given distance again and his messages seem to be about the verge of us breaking up so to speal ,but of course with it is coming back unsetlling feelings for me and whats weird is Im aagain swaying between the real persons identity mainly for a source of comfort and then sort of looking at the fake side of things of what I was led to believe and I guess its my hearts way of trying to let go ,let go of something I thought was real but that turned out to be so fake ,its unbelievable the lengths these scammers go to keep a hold on you ,Ive tried being more distant and more logical with my decison making and I think the scammers finally getting the message that I dont believe in his fascade and stolen fake identity ,it does feel like im going through another stage of heartbreak with it all ,for example the other night I found myself thinking,pondering in the middle of the night about where I am as a person in my life and how my life is and thinking about concerns asto wether Ill have a successfull relationship or not in the future ,to put it bluntly I feel a little hopeless at the prospect that I will get the chance to be married and to have the family life that Ive wished for ,its sad ,almost depressing to think that I may not find my person ,I know Im still young enough to be married but the question in my mind remains ,will it happen for me ? it feels hopeless to think about and yet I think about it ,marraige and children has always been a longstanding life goal of mine ,but is it something thats prehaps unattainable ? sorry for sounding down like this but I wonder if prehaps Im not cut out for secure relationship that I seek ? wether I should bother trying to be in a relationship at all ? even though thats exactly what Ive wanted in life is it prehaps just simply not possible for some of us to aquire ? are some of us just destined to be alone ? I am safe but just pondering so much about my life choices thanks for listening