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pieSenior Contributor
Today I just Lost It and had a panic Attack when I was Shopping with my Carer, I feel Like I Humilatated her and I feel so Ashamed and Feel so Guilty, I couldn't Breathe, I had to be Taken to Hospital by Ambulance. Please tell me things will get Better.
I have an Appointmet with The Psycharist next week How Pathetic am I. I am Home from Hospital now.
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RickSenior Contributor
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pieSenior Contributor
Hi Rick, Thank you But I still feel so Guilty and Ashamed I keep thinking what do other people think of me, when I break down and cry Like I did, Maybe I am Strange.
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kristinSenior Contributor
Dear @pie
Please do not feel ashamed of the panic attack. I'm so sorry you went through that, but I'm sure you would have stopped it if you could. They are really horrnedous, and horribly difficult to calm down once it is full-blown. No blame hey?
For me it is a very triggering time of year. I nearly had a panic attack in the supermarket last year just before Christmas. I thought I was going to have to bolt out or break down it was so busy and noisy (which I find very triggering). I was very close to running out and leaving the full trolley behind, thankfully I did manage to get through the checkout quickly for once, and then straight to my car to calm down before I could drive home.
Sweetheart if you are strange, then so are we all. And we will stand proudly beside you as such. Please be kind to yourself, you have so much going on and seem to have such a big load to carry for others as well as yourself.
Kindest regards, Kristin
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CherryBombSenior Contributor
Hi Pie,
It's normal to worry about how other people think of you. Thing is though, we can always wonder and never really know what other people are thinking of you (we can't get inside their heads). All you can know, is what you think of you right now. I think that's important.
Having a panic attack can feel pretty scary and overwhelming. It's not personal flaw but an acutely intense period of anxiety. Like other illnesses, anxiety is not a choice. And like other illnesses, say for intsance a cold, or cancer, people need not feel ashamed or guilty about feeling unwell.
Be kind to yourself, Pie.
CB
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peaceSenior Contributor
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RickSenior Contributor
Hello Pie
Cherry has the words I don't.
She on da money.
Be kind to you
Your worth is obvious and not influenced by any disease.
Rick
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pieSenior Contributor
Now I don't think I can ever go down the Street again I want to Give up Feeling so Lost and Alone.
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HobbitSenior Contributor
Hi @pie
This is such a hard thing for you right now. The fundamental thing about having a panic attack is that it basically makes you feel pretty horrible, both physically and emotionally. Many people can go through many differing emotions - embarrassment, intense fear, sadness etc. You need to take time out for yourself and relax again, if you can.
You have been given some good support and advice here, I will reflect @CherryBomb 's comment - there is nothing to be ashamed of. You wouldn't feel embarrased if your had a sore foot, or a headache. This is no different.
When I read your posts, and follow your story, I for one see a wonderful person that is really trying hard and has the courage to reach out for help, such as coming here to these forums. I am sure everyone else here would agree with me. You have friends here pie. We care about you.
Keep posting us and tell us how you are going.
Hobbit.
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Alessandra1992Senior Contributor
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RickSenior Contributor
@pie
Hello Pie.
Have just been rereading your posts and the responses of others. They reminded of my own experiences with anxiety attacks.
My biggest trigger is overstimulation. I can't do crowds. This ironic since when I was performing I was playing to crowds 10,000 and sometimes more depending on the event.
Even 100 punters in a small room was very crowded.
Up on a stage you are elevated from them And it does'nt touch you. Which is cool.
Between sets though was a problem. Green rooms are few and far between in the music biz so often you took your breaks in the room. Me , I would go sit in my car. It's only today that I have figured out why.
Little public contact. A space that is controllable by me.
I don't do theme parks or exhibitions or even water parks. Shopping centre at rush hour are no option for me.
When the attack begins I jump irritable, and jumpy. If I remain I get frightened and the tremors start. I get physical and verbal tics. sorta like tourettes with the violent movements. Hypervigilance and paranoia are a part of it as well.
So in the end I embarrassed and shameful and very very stressed out. Physically my heart goes nuts. Hi blood pressure, tachicardia. it just horrendous.
And the worst thing? Because I must avoid these circumstances I can't take my 12yo daughter anywhere cool. It's heartbreaking. I feel profound guilt. And to me it's justifiable guilt because
If I was a decent father I'd do these thing for her anyway.
But in the long run, I need to be stable. And available to her. I also don't want to take out my symptoms on her. Which has happened. I've been irritable with her for no reason and that hurts most of all.
So I guess if I'm saying anything. It's take control over what you can reasonably control.Learning what the triggers are takes a long time. With practise you learn what to avoid.
And remember that if you're in a situation you can't contol it's a symptom of what's happened, not the cause.
There's no shame. No guilt. No reason to hurt yourself any more than you are hurt already.
I wish knowledge and peace
Hope endures
Rick
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