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i have to disagree.. i had to re read what @Rick had written to find his offensive language etc

This is suppose to be a place were we can freely express ourselves in an environment where we feel safe.

If u live in an environment that is contolling and this is the only place we can open up safely the initials dh is far from offensive. If he was personally acttacking u n did it ok. We are all adults here.

@Former-Member

My Apologies.

I am often profane but will make very not to be when responding to a post.

No harm meant sorry harm was done

Rick

Boundaries wow what a big one, and one that I find so difficult. That NO word is so hard to say and stick with. You see I have this belief that I have to be there for my children no matter what, whatever the time of day or night.and that extends to my grandchildren.Having 4 children and 5 grandchildren it gets stressful and overwhelming at times. I put their needs before my own, and I have ended up in hospital a few times because of that. Where do you find the balance?This is so ingrained in me because of how I grew up. I vowed it would be different for my children.

For me at the moment its another round of dbt.I know it works, but it can be incredibly challenging I am learning new skills.Guess none of this is particularly useful.

Hi @Former-Member

Boundries are a very interesting idea for me, the only one i really have is removing myself from a situation, which is one i am not very good at,

i also will stipulate to most people about my humour and sometimes flirtatious behavior, as in i straight out ask people to let me know if i have crossed a line with them, as soon as they mention it, i realise apologise and we move on, it has really helped me, through life.

i would have to work on other boundries as i don't really have them.

thank you

I am only starting to be clear about my boundaries because for a long time I was trying to find connections rather than difference. Concerned I did not know what was "normal" or ok to take for granted.

I liked @NikNik definition that they are about a conscious decision to do or not do.

@Rick

Hi, it's ja47 yr old here whos almost 48.

Good good to see you. Great. 🐰

SMile on my face.🐤

NoTice ive found font sizes and font types.🐢🐕

Still needing help with this topic ... how do people stay in groups where only some of the people dont seem to mind violating your boundaries ... I am now getting told by a lovely lady that I know the boundary crosser means well ... and I feel upset and defensive and triggered ... talk about walking on eggshells ... I am at backed in corner feeling and edge of tears stage ... I walk on egg shells for others plenty ..