@RoseGeranium @tyme I'm in a similar boat myself, having already passed the dreaded milestone. My situation is probably a little differant, being a man, in that it's not absolutely off the cards for me. I try to draw solace from that fact that some guys, like Steve Martin were in their 60s before they had their first child. I think David Letterman was in the same boat, and Donald Trump must've been pretty old when he had his youngest child, Barron.
But if I'm not relying on insane optimism, it certainly seems pretty hopeless by this point. Like you, I haven't even found my soulmate yet, so even in the best case scenario, I am many steps away from having children.
It's been a huge and ongoing disappointment. So much so that I think I'm so bloody used to being disappointed that I don't really get thumped with any big blows of "grief", if that makes sense? Because the sadness is just the norm. Although birthdays are pretty tough. Watching the odometer tick over, yet again.
In school, I'd hoped that I'd be a father before I finished high school. But that didn't happen. And then it just continued to not happen.
My own father got started pretty late in life. He was 36 before he became a father. I figured that made sense, because he's always cared more about his money then about family; so he was spending all those years dedicating himself to his career. But I'm not like that. All I've ever wanted is a family. So, to my mind, I should've started having kids well before I turned 36, because that's where all my attention was focused. 36 came and went for me. That was a really rough birthday.
If anyone from the SANE advocacy department is reading this, please pass this message on to the government: THIS is the sort of treatment we really need from the mental health system! Not pills or "talk therapy" to make us "cope" with our empty lives, but romantic introductions to elligable, compatable singles who are just like us, so we can get to work making our dreams a reality before it's too damned late!
