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Matt12Senior Contributor
Hi anyone
outside of work which is in sales ironically, I have found it extremely difficult to connect with people and grow friendships, just having a coffee and a chat has been a challenge over the years which has of course had adverse effects on my recovery, time to put myself out their this site is a good start as I can "hide" while doing it, connecting with people is critical in achieving "clean discomfort" at my end 🙂
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Matt12Senior Contributor
I bailed tonight, had an opportunity to connect for dinner with "people" ....mind going to wrong area fast..
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Unknown userMember
Hi @Matt12
Funny you should mention that, i did the same thing today (for an event later in the week)... just cant see myself being social.
What's making your mind go to wrong area? you ok?
lj
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Matt12Senior Contributor
not thinking of others needs due to my head, as its not about me.
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Unknown userMember
sometimes its ok to look after our own needs too, though i'm not sure i completely understand whats happening for you.
here listening though
LJ
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Matt12Senior Contributor
connecting is critical to my recovery outside of work...if I dont...isolation is my only friend and that will lead be back the black space..this helps but reality rules.
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Unknown userMember
ahh yes, i understand i think.
Its hard to push yourself soemtimes. Isolation is hard, can you plan forwards to the next opportunity and how you might handle it?
lj
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Astrid67New Contributor
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Matt12Senior Contributor
I have been doing it for many years and it's time to start the move, then again ?
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Matt12Senior Contributor
funny thing connecting, you must or you fade away, very difficult to do when your my age and living inside my head. My wife of 28 years told me I'm not moving back as I am to moody, not all correct.
Now I am truly along lost in transition, taken something as the wave building is big, might see my doc next week for the usual advise or just fade away into the background quietly
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